[MissCharlotte]

I actually think this is a good topic for all of us. Certain topics, threads, content may trigger things in us that we cannot manage. It is most important for us to keep ourselves safe on the site. This is true in this forum and, in fact, any other forum.

There is a way to handle this. You can look up the person on the member list and click "ignore member." Then you will no longer see the body of that person's posts. I think I will post this above in a new thread also in case this thread gets deleted. I noticed this when I was in a chat where someone was being, well, not so nice.

Cheers,

Sister

[(JD)]

Ok, yes it's good to use the ignore, both in forums and in chat, if there's a member who is upsetting you with their talk. I'm wondering why you decided to put this in psychotherapy forum. I think the moderators or even KimmyDawn has recently said these same things here at PC.

Did something or someone make you feel unsafe? I hope not. TC.

[MissCharlotte]

Not me, but had the sense that someone needed to know this now.

Thank you Sky.

Sister, Thanks for this, yes I feel the need to avoid certain posts right now. I guess people forget they are not terminally unique and others do get effected also.

[blah__x]

only problem with that is your not only ignoring that topic but that person. so you wont see the good stuff they have to say either..

[ sorry if i've ever triggered anyone!! ]

Ignore works very well. I have 2 on ignore, though one is no longer here.

It was a relief to put it in place and prevented me from accidentally reading a reply by the ones I didn't want to read.

[SecretGarden]

I am afraid that Sister was so kind as to write this post for me.

I like to think of this forum as one of support and comfort but it now has become an anxiety producing forum at least for the time being.

I wish we could ignore total posts...

[MissCharlotte]

((Secret))

If the truth be known, I need protection from certain threads right now as well. I do believe this happens to all of us.

it happens,on occasion, that something someone says, or habits they exhibit, touch something inside of us that we feel we can't control? Hmmmm, I wonder what/who is inside my little girl's head that feels threatened right now? So, rather than get further upset, I need to ignore (to take care of myself) and look within? Food for thought.

Be safe Secret. Take gentle care.

Sister

[Fuzzybear]

Don't forget to you can put an entire forum on "ignore."

I do that.

I'm gonna get my kids to become members then I can put them on ignore too LOL!! hey I even have my adoptive mother coming to stay soon, I may enrol her too LOLOLOL!!!

i have members on ignore. i couldn't even read a thread the other day because everyone was on ignore except the original poster.

the reason i have them on ignore, Gabriel, is that i haven't seen, previously, that their posts will positively affect my mental health...and i suspect others feel as i do. i'm sure i'm on ignore by some. i'm supposed to be......

"Ignore" is a way of self-advocacy.

Honestly though it takes a LOT to make me put someone on ignore as I can generally tolerate a lot. But we all have our limits and part of our growth is learning what's good for us as well as how to deal with conflict, ambivalence, ambiguity, and just different strokes for different folks.

Self-advocay via "ignore" is okay.

... and mouse, let me know how that goes with the kids and adoptive mom... I'd like to add my job....