[Ad Intra]

I'm in therapy right now and going through a rough patch. I've started self-harming again and last time I saw my therapist I said I had relapsed. Her response was sadness. She said that she didn't want me to hurt myself. Frankly I've decided to self-harm for now, but try out different coping techniques and hopefully find the right one.
I know my therapist's doesn't like me cutting, and it makes her sad and afraid, so I'm not sure how to advance in therapy in light of this.

[stolen_innocence08]

Originally Posted by Ad Intra

I'm in therapy right now and going through a rough patch. I've started self-harming again and last time I saw my therapist I said I had relapsed. Her response was sadness. She said that she didn't want me to hurt myself. Frankly I've decided to self-harm for now, but try out different coping techniques and hopefully find the right one.
I know my therapist's doesn't like me cutting, and it makes her sad and afraid, so I'm not sure how to advance in therapy in light of this.

I am having the same issue. I know only I am in control of my SH, and mostly it's a choice I choose to make. I haven't told my T though. So you are very brave and not alone with this.

[InRealLife45]

Originally Posted by Ad Intra

I'm in therapy right now and going through a rough patch. I've started self-harming again and last time I saw my therapist I said I had relapsed. Her response was sadness. She said that she didn't want me to hurt myself. Frankly I've decided to self-harm for now, but try out different coping techniques and hopefully find the right one.
I know my therapist's doesn't like me cutting, and it makes her sad and afraid, so I'm not sure how to advance in therapy in light of this.

Not sure how to respond to this. Every time something goes wrong in my life my very first thought is to grab a blade.

But...at some point it stopped being an option, and I'm not really sure what changed except that I wanted something else more than I wanted to hurt myself. And I learned to tolerate the pain. What usually works for me (I know this sounds utterly ridiculous, but bear with me) is to watch something cute or funny. I just go on youtube and watch videos of babies doing funny things, or cute kitten or something unbearably cute. It never fails to lighten my mood long enough for the urge to cut to pass. Maybe you can try that?

But even if nothing works and you feel in this moment you have to cut, that's okay too- you cant take away someones crutch until they find another way to get by. Just be careful not to go too deep, and actively be trying the other coping methods until you find one that speaks to you. Wishing you the best.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by InRealLife45

Not sure how to respond to this. Every time something goes wrong in my life my very first thought is to grab a blade.

But...at some point it stopped being an option, and I'm not really sure what changed except that I wanted something else more than I wanted to hurt myself. And I learned to tolerate the pain. What usually works for me (I know this sounds utterly ridiculous, but bear with me) is to watch something cute or funny. I just go on youtube and watch videos of babies doing funny things, or cute kitten or something unbearably cute. It never fails to lighten my mood long enough for the urge to cut to pass. Maybe you can try that?

But even if nothing works and you feel in this moment you have to cut, that's okay too- you cant take away someones crutch until they find another way to get by. Just be careful not to go too deep, and actively be trying the other coping methods until you find one that speaks to you. Wishing you the best.

It is interesting you should say that!

I once was upset with something and my t suggested to watch something really silly and mindless on tv. Like dumb comedy. I did and it does help every time. I used to read when upset but now it doesn't help but dumb tv dies every time lol My BF plays video games when shyt hits the fan. Or listens to music.

Whatever works!!!!

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[PinkFlamingo99]

My therapist helped me come up with a "safety plan" that starts with stuff like this and then escalates all the way to emergency room. It does help because at the time, sometimes it's hard to think of things like watching a funny movie.

[velcro003]

Originally Posted by InRealLife45

But even if nothing works and you feel in this moment you have to cut, that's okay too- you cant take away someones crutch until they find another way to get by..

My T has said this same thing to me. She really doesn't make a big deal of it, and we can go weeks without discussing it, even if she knows I probably am still doing it. She treats it like any negative coping mechanism, no less, no worse.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by PinkFlamingo99

My therapist helped me come up with a "safety plan" that starts with stuff like this and then escalates all the way to emergency room. It does help because at the time, sometimes it's hard to think of things like watching a funny movie.

I understand pink. I was referring to generally being anxious or very upset with something in particular not self harm or something otherwise physically harmful.

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[Cinnamon_Stick]

When I was self harming and I told my T she was very sad and concerned. She wanted to talk about it during every session. She helped me to stop by coming up with other ways of coping. I know you aren't ready right now but the best thing might be to tell your T about it and find ways to cope and stop.

Originally Posted by Ad Intra

I'm in therapy right now and going through a rough patch. I've started self-harming again and last time I saw my therapist I said I had relapsed. Her response was sadness. She said that she didn't want me to hurt myself. Frankly I've decided to self-harm for now, but try out different coping techniques and hopefully find the right one.
I know my therapist's doesn't like me cutting, and it makes her sad and afraid, so I'm not sure how to advance in therapy in light of this.

Does it make her afraid? Or are you transferring your own feelings into her so your can continue sh?

[PinkFlamingo99]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I understand pink. I was referring to generally being anxious or very upset with something in particular not self harm or something otherwise physically harmful.

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It does help when the urges start though. I never really SH impulsively so stuff to distract from those thoughts is helpful at the beginning.