[musinglizzy]

I've been seeing my T for a year and a half, twice a week. I am seeing a new T next week. I'm not sure what my intentions are right now, except to try to move past this road block I have been in with T1 for 9 months. Maybe T2 can help me through it so I can continue my work with T1, or perhaps I will realize T2 is a better fit for me. T1 is more psychodynamic, T2 is CBT. I am being treated for complex PTSD, but honestly, some of my T's actions triggered that PTSD a great deal, and I'm still stuck. I love T1, and she has helped me a great deal. She has also caused some hurt, which I'm struggling to move past. I don't intend to leave T1 at this time. But T2 said that keeping two T's in this situation might not be a bad thing, sice their modalities are so different, I may find gain in each one, in a different way. So obviously T2 knows I'm seeing T1. I have not told T1 I was even considering the idea of a second T. I'd love some opinions, especially if you've been in this boat.
When did you decide to tell your T?
How did they take it?
Knowing what you know now, would you change anything as far as timing?

Don't know why I'm fretting. Just have a feeling T1 won't approve. But that's my business, I guess.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

I am so glad you are consulting with another T. I hope they can help you heal and move past all the hurt your current T has caused. Who knows, they might end up to be the best therapist ever! Good luck!

[AllHeart]

I think it's a great idea to use t2 in adjunct to t1 to start. Your current t should support this decision because both services will benefit YOU.

My t has recently recommended me to see another t complimentary to her for EFT. My t knows what skills she has to help me, and what skills she doesn't. I appreciate her having my best interests at heart because my therapy is all about me -- not her.

And so your therapy is all about you. I am glad you are doing what is best for you right now. Your t should be receptive and supportive of you seeing a CBT therapist. I do hope she is. Let us know how things unfold!

[stopdog]

I would not tell her until I had met with the second one a couple of times and assessed how I thought it might go with the second one.

[musinglizzy]

Thanks....that's what I'm going to do. I don't know why I care so much that T1 might not appreciate my not sharing this process with her....but this is about me, not her, and I need to keep reminding myself of that.

[kecanoe]

I've had to strongly advocate for myself when I added t3-but it was t3 who had the problem with it. He retired and I've started with another t-I guess that makes her t3.1. I had to do a lot of convincing with her also. But both of them came around and think/thought it was a good thing for me to see 3.

You may also find some resistance, but hang in there if that's what you need. FWIW my 3ts all do different types of therapy, and that helped them get used to the idea.

[PinkFlamingo99]

You don't even have to tell her at all if you don't want to. You're going to see another T partially because of her.