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Poohbah
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Dec 22, 2015 at 07:03 AM
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I have given my t a Christmas/end if year gift. This is the 3rd year I have.
Have, or will, you give t a gift or card? If so what did/will you give your t? What has been your experience in doing this? |
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Dec 22, 2015 at 07:08 AM
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I was very ill in the run up to our final session before the break, I didn't realise that it would be, I thought she might work one or two days each week like she does over the other school holidays.
So I was gutted that I didn't manage to get her at least a card. I couldn't have sent one after our session as it wouldn't have made it on time. If I did mange it. I would have got her a book that we discussed in our first session that she said she hadn't read but sounds good. As she is always giving me books to read, I thought it would be amusing for me to give her one! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Dec 22, 2015 at 08:29 AM
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No I haven't given her anything. She doesn't need or expect gifts - I did give her a gift for her birthday which she accepted gracefully but I know she would rather I said thank you than give her something. It's a very long term relationship and I feel more able to say how much I appreciate her, and know that she hears me than I did early on.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 08:36 AM
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No.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 08:39 AM
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She doesn't give me anything so why should I bother?
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Dec 22, 2015 at 08:41 AM
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Yes. It was more of a gift of appreciation vs a Christmas gift. She gave me a little gift as well.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 08:59 AM
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No. I pay her for sitting there.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 09:17 AM
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Not anything tangible. But last month I did sing something for her, a song that the lyrics spoke to where I was at in my head when I first came to see her 4 years ago, I told her me singing it now is a testament to how far I've come in therapy. She told me the following week that she considered it an incredible gift that I had done that. So I guess I kinda did.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 09:48 AM
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Nope. He's my T, not my friend.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 10:05 AM
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No, but I haven't seen him in almost a year. I wasn't one to give him gifts. I did once when I was so moved, but it wasn't something I felt moved or obligated to do every year.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 11:24 AM
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No. That would feel awkward to me.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 11:32 AM
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Yes, she gave me a card, I gave her a small ornament. I don't often (ever?) properly say thank you, so it's good to get that opportunity.
I gave her a gift after my summer holidays too. I am well nice. |
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Dec 22, 2015 at 12:19 PM
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For those who say no do you give and extra tip to the newspaper delivery person, mail carrier etc?? Just curious.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 12:20 PM
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And I wouldn't equate giving a gift to my therapist to a tip. Just seems really odd. If and when I give a gift to someone, it is because I feel a desire to show them my appreciation, etc., not because I am giving them an extra tip for a service. I am giving our neighbor a gift card in addition to what we pay him to take care of our lawn (that's his business). He charges us next to nothing really to take care of our yard and does many extras just out of the kindness of his heart (love our neighbor), so I included a gift card for him and his family to show that extra appreciation for his extra care to our family. |
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Dec 22, 2015 at 12:21 PM
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I bought to a lovely card and having my son make her an apple pie. For my part I am buying the supplies and all. I have brought her homemade foods in the past and she has always loved it.....
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Dec 22, 2015 at 12:32 PM
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Dec 22, 2015 at 12:47 PM
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I would give her a card, but I'm not sure it's alllowed as per hospital rules. So I just told her verbally how much I appreciate her.
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Dec 22, 2015 at 12:49 PM
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No. I don't give other professionals in my life gifts either. (Or tips, except for wait staff.)
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Dec 22, 2015 at 01:13 PM
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Dec 22, 2015 at 02:24 PM
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I don't give gifts to T's or other professionals.
I would like to give my T a card. But I haven't done that the other times, so it feels weird to do that now. I wanted to give one, but I was to anxious for her reaction. I don't know if other clients give cards. I'm still a bit anxious to give a card. I haven't want to give previous T's a card. And she wouldn't give me one. I'm just one of many clients. I wish I was special, but I'm not. I wish she would give me a card, but she won't. |
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