[Springer]

Ok I need some input on this. One day recently my T accidentally sent me a text meant for her husband. It had to do with Dr. Appointments, radiology. I was embarrassed for her that this went to me. I was not going to mention anything the next time I saw her as it was none of my business. However, at the end of my last session SHE mentioned it and asked me if I had any concerns for her wellbeing. I quickly without thinking said no and we left it as that. Now the more I think about it I should have said yes as it has been on my mind since then. But I didn't want to intrude. I know the boundaries T have to have and I don't want to lose my relationship.
Now I am wondering if I should bring it up to her that I am concerned after all
I have been working with her for two years and we have a good, caring therapeutic relationship.
Should I say something or should I just let it go?
Anyone ever experience a similar situation? I need some advise. Thanks

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[ChavInAHat]

I would tell her that at first you responded thinking of her boundaries, but you know she would value the truth more and that yes, you are concerned and tell her how you feel.

Good luck

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[Argonautomobile]

I would bring it up, yes. It's not intrusive if she raised the issue. And I think she should have. That was a perceptive and honest response to a mistake she made. I would this of as an accidental disclosure more than a boundary crossing.

I've never had anything like this happen to me, but I have worried about T's welfare when he looked just exhausted one day. T handled it well.

[junkDNA]

one time my T texted me something meant for someone else. i had just texted him and he sent "just found it offensive". i thought, ummm omg, 5 yrs and ive finally offended T!!! but then he said it was for someone else.

[nottrustin]

I would be honest with her and tell her you are concerned and let her take from there. It is normal for you to be concerned so I am sure she is prepared to discuss it with u you side she brought it up.

[Bipolar Warrior]

I agree with what others have said - I definitely think you should bring it up again and say that of course you have concerns for her wellbeing, but you were worried about boundaries when she first brought it up. I'm sure she'll understand, and to me it seems like maybe she actually wanted to talk to you about it?

[LonesomeTonight]

I agree that you should bring it up. Just be prepared for her to not give you much information.

[musinglizzy]

My T has mistakenly texted me a couple times, mean for her husband....once asking if he can eat solids after his dental work, and another time telling "him" her agenda for the evening. I said "wrong person" and she apologized. I've actually done the same to her a couple times as well...so now when I have texts of hers (or anyone elses) I delete them so I don't accidentally write to the wrong person.

I don't know why T's don't have a specific work mobile (complete with passwords for confidentiality of clients) to prevent this kind of thing.

[Miswimmy1]

I think that since she brought it up, she acknowledges that it was her mistake. Not yours. Therefore I think she would be open to discussing it and you shouldn't fear losing the relationship.

My t didn't realize that when she sent emails from her home computer, the sender was her husbands name plus her last name (I guess since he purchased the domain under his own name). I mentioned it to her out of concern for my privacy and she assured me that it was her private email address and she was the only one who read the emails. But she then got an entirely new email account on an entirely different server. I was glad that I mentioned it to her because it gave me some reassurance.

[NowhereUSA]

This is why I'm glad my T has a work number! LOL

Honestly, I'd just bring it up with a, "You know this really did bother me."

Each T has slightly different boundaries. I'm a nosy person and part of it is that I like to see what he'll answer If a question crosses a boundary or they aren't comfortable answering it, a well trained T has plenty of ways to redirect without terminating the relationship. That seems rather extreme for an accidental text.