Do you care about the therapist?

stopdog · Feb 19, 2016 at 05:56 PM

Do you think you care about the therapist - not does the therapist care about you - but the opposite.

JustShakey · Feb 19, 2016 at 06:07 PM

Yes, I do. It sort of snuck up on me, the caring, but I've surprised myself a few times with the vehemence of it...

Feb 19, 2016 at 06:10 PM

Yeah, he matters to me, but I don't spend a lot of time thinking about it. I would put him above acquaintance though.

Petra5ed · Feb 19, 2016 at 06:10 PM

I care about my therapist. I love my therapist and even in an agape kind of way. Even though I have romantic feelings for him and can feel a twinge of jealousy if he mentions a girlfriend, I am also equally if not more happy for him, and I think I hope whoever he dates treats him right. I worry about him, and I worry if something were very wrong would he tell me. It irks me that because of our relationship I might not be asked or able to rescue him as a friend if he ever needed me. It makes me sad that he cannot vent his frustrations with me, I want things to be more mutual, more "normal" if you will as opposed to mostly focused on me. But... I don't think this is just because he's my therapist. I've actually had other therapists, and people who were nice to me if not nicer. I actually really like him as a person, I value him, I can see a bit of the devine in him. I wish him well, and the idea of him being happy makes me happy. So yeah, I think I care quite a lot!

RedSun · Feb 19, 2016 at 06:23 PM

Yes, I do.

velcro003 · Feb 19, 2016 at 07:04 PM

i put other, because i am not sure how i can define how i feel about my T. i've only been going 7 months, so its still "early". i definitely feel more secure with her than my other T's. I generally don't worry about her thinking i am the most frustrating person alive, though i do worry about it a little. it is hard for me to hold on to the sense of her during the week, so i can't say i truly care about her in a deep way. I would feel bad for her if something bad happened to her or her family, but that is in a general human kind of feeling.

feralkittymom · Feb 19, 2016 at 07:35 PM

I cared about him in a restrained sort of way during therapy until he developed a serious health issue that required surgery; at that point, in the last year of therapy, I became very concerned about him. But overall, I think my fondness for him has increased in the years since therapy (maybe as I have more emotional energy to give). The deepening of the connection over the years has been one of the nicest consequences of therapy.

Pennster · Feb 19, 2016 at 07:37 PM

I care about him, but I feel like I don't have to take care of him. I appreciate the fact that I don't have to worry about him very much because it's not my role to do that.

Feb 19, 2016 at 07:38 PM

I voted yes, like i do any other acquaintance but it's probably admittedly a little more than that. I care about a lot of people....

AllHeart · Feb 19, 2016 at 08:48 PM

I absolutely do!

Argonautomobile · Feb 19, 2016 at 09:40 PM

I'm not really sure how much the context of the relationship allows me to care about my therapist. If a friend, family member--somebody I really cared about--called to tell me about their miscarriage or that their dog got hit by a car, I'd be sad. I'd care. If my therapist called me to tell me about his dead dog or girlfriend's miscarriage, I'd think he'd lost his f*cking mind.

I mean, I'd certainly be sad he'd lost his mind. Very upset, even. Because I'm fond of him and wish him well and would like his professional integrity to remain intact. But I don't know how much I can really care about someone who is not ethically allowed to ask for my care.

confusedbyself · Feb 19, 2016 at 10:04 PM

I do but wish you had given options regarding 'care' because that can be easily misunderstood

spring2014 · Feb 19, 2016 at 10:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stopdog

Do you think you care about the therapist - not does the therapist care about you - but the opposite.

hi stopdog,
my therapist does care about me cuz im her client and she is doing her best to take care of me .I know cuz she told me on the phone one time that she said that she cares for me as her client .I care for her as my counselor who helping me to get better and to heal . also my therapist is an experienced registered nurse .

Diagnosis: Anxiety and depression
meds: Cymbalta 60 mgs at night
Vistrail 2 25 mgs daily for anxiety prn
50 mgs at night for insomnia with an additional 25 mgs=75 mgs when up past 1:00 in the morning

atisketatasket · Feb 19, 2016 at 10:44 PM

I would be regretful if something happened to No. 2. The other two, I don't wish them harm, but I'm not really invested in them either in terms of caring.

awkwardlyyours · Feb 19, 2016 at 11:04 PM

Other. The one time I randomly enquired about something (related to scheduling) that could be remotely construed as caring, I was not-so-gently asked to shove it (which I did respect and appreciate) and a multi-session exposition of how it's symptomatic of an unhealthy pattern from my childhood, family etc ensued (which I truly did not appreciate). So, other than being very wary all around, I'm honestly unsure how I feel about caring about someone who's so explicitly not cool with any hint of my caring!

Cinnamon_Stick · Feb 19, 2016 at 11:24 PM

Yes, I care a lot about my therapist.

growlycat · Feb 19, 2016 at 11:43 PM

I do care but part of that is out of sheer selfishness if I'm being honest with myself.

And for the part of me that genuinely cares, I don't really know him so it is hard to tell what is real

Feb 20, 2016 at 12:17 AM

Certainly I care about my therapist.

junkDNA · Feb 20, 2016 at 12:25 AM

it took me a long time, but yes i do care about him. a lot.

Feb 20, 2016 at 05:23 AM

I care about her, yes. It's selfish of me in a way, because I want her to be well so she is effective and present for her clients.

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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 35,051 (SuperPoster!) 13 1 hugs given	Feb 19, 2016 at 05:56 PM #1 Do you think you care about the therapist - not does the therapist care about you - but the opposite. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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JustShakey WON'T!!! Member Since May 2014 Location: Arizona Posts: 4,576 10 1,234 hugs given	Feb 19, 2016 at 06:07 PM #2 Yes, I do. It sort of snuck up on me, the caring, but I've surprised myself a few times with the vehemence of it... __________________ '... At poor peace I sing To you strangers (though song Is a burning and crested act, The fire of birds in The world's turning wood, For my sawn, splay sounds,) ...' Dylan Thomas, Author's Prologue
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Anonymous37925 Guest Posts: n/a	Feb 19, 2016 at 06:10 PM #3 Yeah, he matters to me, but I don't spend a lot of time thinking about it. I would put him above acquaintance though.
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RedSun Grand Poohbah Member Since Jul 2014 Location: Scotland Posts: 1,668 10 1,202 hugs given	Feb 19, 2016 at 06:23 PM #5 Yes, I do.
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Pennster Poohbah Member Since Aug 2013 Location: US Posts: 1,030 11 442 hugs given	Feb 19, 2016 at 07:37 PM #8 I care about him, but I feel like I don't have to take care of him. I appreciate the fact that I don't have to worry about him very much because it's not my role to do that.
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Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	Feb 19, 2016 at 07:38 PM #9 I voted yes, like i do any other acquaintance but it's probably admittedly a little more than that. I care about a lot of people....
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AllHeart Magnate Member Since Feb 2015 Location: USA Posts: 2,024 9 2,132 hugs given	Feb 19, 2016 at 08:48 PM #10 I absolutely do!
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confusedbyself Member Member Since Nov 2015 Location: Canada Posts: 316 8 97 hugs given	Feb 19, 2016 at 10:04 PM #12 I do but wish you had given options regarding 'care' because that can be easily misunderstood
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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,304 (SuperPoster!) 9 12.4k hugs given	Feb 19, 2016 at 10:44 PM #14 I would be regretful if something happened to No. 2. The other two, I don't wish them harm, but I'm not really invested in them either in terms of caring.
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Cinnamon_Stick Grand Poohbah Member Since May 2015 Location: USA Posts: 1,677 9 4,146 hugs given	Feb 19, 2016 at 11:24 PM #16 Yes, I care a lot about my therapist.
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growlycat Therapy Ninja Member Since Jan 2007 Location: How did I get here? Posts: 10,308 17 16.1k hugs given	Feb 19, 2016 at 11:43 PM #17 I do care but part of that is out of sheer selfishness if I'm being honest with myself. And for the part of me that genuinely cares, I don't really know him so it is hard to tell what is real
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Anonymous50005 Guest Posts: n/a	Feb 20, 2016 at 12:17 AM #18 Certainly I care about my therapist.
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junkDNA Comfy Sedation Member Since Sep 2012 Location: the woods Posts: 19,305 (SuperPoster!) 12 8,152 hugs given	Feb 20, 2016 at 12:25 AM #19 it took me a long time, but yes i do care about him. a lot. __________________
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Anonymous45127 Guest Posts: n/a	Feb 20, 2016 at 05:23 AM #20 I care about her, yes. It's selfish of me in a way, because I want her to be well so she is effective and present for her clients.
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