[rainbow8]

I hardly ever remember dreams but this was more like a nightmare to me. T was drunk, wearing bright red lipstick. and acting rowdy with her friends. Msybe she was a prostitute. But she kept pulling me along with her. I was repulsed and afraid of her. She kept laughing. I woke up feeling sad. I guess it means T and I have different lives and I'm paying her to love me.
What an awful dream!

I had a drunk therapist dream once too! It was actually pretty awful. I am still not sure where that idea came from.

[rainbow8]

My dream was pretty awful too. I hardly ever dream about my T's. I forgot how real dreams can be! It's like she was really there, laughing, talking loudly, acting drunk and brazenly, but that's about all I remember. I woke up feeling sad and depressed.

I've had a handful of dreams about my t (she was just in one last week, starring as a contractor overseeing painting the inside of a house) but I'm pretty sure I've never had one like that. My t always seems to be so much in control of herself, I can't picture her drunk. I'd imagine that would be unsettling and I would probably wake up feeling sad too.

Something interesting to me about dream work, is the first question t asks me after I read her a dream, is "how did you feel when you woke up?" So I got into the habit of writing down not only my dreams, but my feelings upon waking.

[ruh roh]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I guess it means T and I have different lives and I'm paying her to love me.

I would say your dream is illustrating how you feel (or fear) your therapist relationship is, not how it actually is. Dreams can only give us insight into ourselves. They are not a news channel.

[ListenMoreTalkLess]

I have read your posts about the things you are working on in therapy lately.

Before I read your interpretation of the dream, I thought this is what it might mean:

T is encouraging me to move out of my comfort zone, closer to hers. It's scary and unfamiliar to me, and maybe immoral or unacceptable to what I think I'm supposed to be.

So I guess I saw it in almost the completely opposite way, that you see your T as trying to bring you in closer to her, not that you are more separate.

Not trying to be "right," just trying to offer my take.