[Schizoid_1]

I have been seeing my psychotherapist for the past 9 months. I quit my job 6 months ago and since then I could not see her regularly for the next 3 months. So, she asked me to text her to schedule an appointment. The last six times in the past 3 months that I have asked for an appointment through a text message, she did not reply till I asked for an confirmation a day prior to the session day . I asked her if I could use a different medium such as a call or email for scheduling appointments, but she insisted that she would give appointments through messages. Our therapeutic alliance is already weak and her not replying really disturbs me. Should I ask for termination and see a different therapist?

[Skeezyks]

Hello Schizoid_1: I see this is your first post here on PC... so... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! May you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

The Skeezyks dislikes giving advice. I've seen a few different therapists over the years. None of them amounted to much. One guy, who seemed even less interested than most, called me one day by telephone to ask ME when our next appointment was! I quit him... I don't recall who the next one I saw was. But I'm quite certain that next T was no better... just different...

[Schizoid_1]

I plan to talk about my thoughts about our therapeutic alliance in the next session IF I manage to schedule one. I really do not want to see a new therapist after having invested so much time into this relationship. I am torn apart inside.

[Ellahmae]

I would need more of a window for that. Not being able to schedule my day or really knowing up until the day before would seriously bother me. The non-responsiveness would put me over the edge. I would continue to discuss it with her in hope that she would understand what I needed from the relationship and communication especially when it came to scheduling appts. Is there a way you can schedule your next session at the end of the current one?

[Schizoid_1]

Yes, scheduling at the end of a session works. But I think I am at peace with the decision I've just made. I plan to tell her, preferably in a session, that I'm grateful for her support and I understand her boundaries but her not responding makes me ruminate a lot more and all my amateur mindfulness powers do not help me get over it. So I think that although I would have loved to work with her on so many different issues **because she is such a wonderful therapist**, I would like to prematurely terminate my therapy.

I don't think it would be unreasonable to terminate with her at this point.

[Schizoid_1]

The urge to not leave her is really strong. I am really attached to her and dread leaving an important source of support and advice in my life at a time when I have none. Why does this have to be so difficult?

[Schizoid_1]

She texted to let me know that she did not reply as she was waiting for a patient to confirm an appointment. Any suggestions?

[divine1966]

That wouldn't work for me. I am very busy and plan everything in advance. If I don't know time of the appointment id have something else scheduled at that time instead. I wouldn't be able to sit around waiting for her texts. I don't know what her deal is really. It sounds hurtful. I am sorry you deal with it. I hope you can find someone else soon

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[Schizoid_1]

The fact that she gives me an hour long session at the price of 1/2 hour tilts the scales in her favour. I am going to stick with her for now. Gosh, I've completely reversed my decision in a day!

[PinkFlamingo99]

Originally Posted by Schizoid_1

The fact that she gives me an hour long session at the price of 1/2 hour tilts the scales in her favour. I am going to stick with her for now. Gosh, I've completely reversed my decision in a day!

That was nice of her. Maybe you coukd ask her in future what works best for her. That would honestly drive me nuts.