[ScarletPimpernel]

I found out today that it will be for 2-3 years. At the 2 year marker is when we will start planing for termination. I basically have 1 more year with my T At least I won't be abandoned, right?

[PinkFlamingo99]

Can you go back after a break? I know mine likes to do a "therapy break" after about 2 yrs.

[ScarletPimpernel]

Originally Posted by PinkFlamingo99

Can you go back after a break? I know mine likes to do a "therapy break" after about 2 yrs.

I don't think so. Pretty sure it's solid. The 2 year mark is when we'll start winding down: reducing sessions, etc. I know I can check-in once in awhile after termination or do one session here or there. But it's definitely termination and not a break.

[Nammu]

No option for less than 6 months?

I think it's going to be similar for my T... 2-3 years of once every 2 weeks. I'm into year 2 now and feel very sad.

My therapist told me that it would take her 18 months-2 years to get me to an emotional place and not do regular therapy. I was done at 18 months. Is your therapist telling you that you will be in a fairly consistent healthy space in two years to go out and follow the dreams you speak about? That would be a good thing, but I don't think it should be her decision alone. I wonder if she has to say this for insurance purposes.

Did she talk to your Pdoc? I smell insurance meddling. Just my thoughts.

[heda]

Since I graduate from undergrad in December, we would only reach a year before I lose my T. It deeply saddens me because I honestly can't see myself going to anyone else.

[PinkFlamingo99]

Why 2 years? Was there a reason?

[ScarletPimpernel]

Originally Posted by Walkedthatroad

My therapist told me that it would take her 18 months-2 years to get me to an emotional place and not do regular therapy. I was done at 18 months. Is your therapist telling you that you will be in a fairly consistent healthy space in two years to go out and follow the dreams you speak about? That would be a good thing, but I don't think it should be her decision alone. I wonder if she has to say this for insurance purposes.

Did she talk to your Pdoc? I smell insurance meddling. Just my thoughts.

I pay out-of-pocket, so it's not insurance.

It isn't about being in a healthy space either. We've talked about the possibility of me seeing another T after her.

And no, she hasn't talked to my Pdoc yet, but she did leave a message.

[ScarletPimpernel]

Originally Posted by PinkFlamingo99

Why 2 years? Was there a reason?

Just a length of time that sounded reasonable to her. Not too short, not too long. She doesn't want me to develop a dependency on her.

[divine1966]

I see mine once a month now sometimes once in two months. I will probably stop soon. Don't know. I like to have neural person to run things by. I don't have pressing issues right now

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[Victoria'smom]

I need someone to mointer my stability. I don’t see that going away so I picked 10+ years even if frequency goes down. Unfortunately it ended months ago when t left the center. I'm hoping to get a new t in the near future but I'm doing okay without one but who knows because I lack insight.

[Myrto]

Sorry but I find your therapist's two year period a bit ridiculous. You are done when you are done. Nobody can predict how long it will take for you to get better. I have no idea how long I will still be with my T and she hasn't decided on a termination date thankfully.
I'm sorry about the whole situation. Are you sure she won't reconsider ? It all seems so arbitrary.

[Piickles]

Indefinitely, as per my referral.

Ive been with my therapist 5 years and we have only "just begun" the work. I'm glad I don't have a time frame looming over me. My therapist says "it takes as long as it takes".

[junkDNA]

i've been with my T for almost 6 years. i checked "i don't know"

I was with my last T for a bit over 10 years.

I voted I don't know. T will see me as long as I want to keep coming. I don't see myself going weekly for years on end. But I know he will be there unless one of us dies or moves. I don't really understand why some Ts put a time limit on therapy.

Probably a couple more years, though I would like to have the option to go back and see him if needed I think.

[stopdog]

They are both old and I am not young. Death or retirement is not unexpected for any of us.

[AllHeart]

Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I found out today that it will be for 2-3 years. At the 2 year marker is when we will start planing for termination. I basically have 1 more year with my T At least I won't be abandoned, right?

So you are at the 2 year mark now?

It's interesting to me that a t could definitively state when a client will be ready for termination like this. I thought I'd be in therapy for 1.5 to 2 years this round. I'm approaching the 2 year mark in July and I'm not done. So many things have come up that I had no idea were affecting me so badly or even at all, things I didn't think I'd have to address for so long and so intensely. There have been so many twists, turns, and setbacks. Who could have predicted?

[AncientMelody]

Why no shorter than 6 months option? I put "I don't know" because it was more accurate than what was available. I have two more months 3 appointments, tomorrow, May, and June

[Ellahmae]

I know I'll be with my T at a minimum of 5 years but I don't know how much longer after that. I also know she'll always be in my life but in what capacity I'm not sure.

[atisketatasket]

2-3 years is pretty arbitrary. Who knows what will change for you during that time? Unless she is just trying to accustom you to the idea that the relationship is temporary, given what happened with your last therapist.

Anyway, I am moving home in July, so No. 3 and I will have a little more than six months. But we both knew she was temporary going in. After that I might go back to No. 1 and/or No. 2.

[awkwardlyyours]

Scarlet, I don't mean to diss your T but it seems a trifle pessimistic / giving-in-to-hopelessness on her part if she --
a. Takes it as a given that you're going to develop some sort of (unhealthy, since dependence can also be healthy) dependence on her and,
b. That there's nothing she / therapy can do to help you change that.

And, of course I totally agree with everyone else who said that 2-3 years is not only arbitrary but the unilateral way in which she has pronounced it seems a bit problematic as well.

I'd be a trifle concerned about her faith in her own abilities as well as her assessment of you.

Of course, needless to say, take this for what it's worth -- I don't know you or your T and this is just my reading of the situation from your posts.

To answer the poll, I don't know how long I'll be with my T -- I'm still caught up in trying to figure out if I should find someone else because she's not all that good or if it's just my usual pattern of questioning people / leaving situations rearing its head again.

[precaryous]

I don't know. She may retire next year. Maybe not.