[annielovesbacon]

Hey there, sorry I know I just posted but I have another question
I've been seeing a T since November and a pdoc since February, all at my uni, all without my parents knowing. I've been paying for it out of pocket even though we have insurance because I don't want my parents to know (luckily it's affordable being at my uni and all). However I am thinking about seeing a new pdoc, one outside my university. I know this will be much more expensive and I will need my parents' help to afford it and any medication s/he may prescribe.
The thing is I'm not close AT ALL with my parents, I hardly ever talk to them when I'm away at school and I have no desire to tell them about this. But I need to to be able to afford care.
Any one have experience with "coming out" to your parents about MI or similar?

It was a disaster for me many years ago. I've managed without them. Then involved was a negative.

[Waterbear]

No experience I am afraid but in a similar situation, feeling the need to tell but not knowing how or actually wanting to. It is tough. I don't know how I will do it but know I will need the support of my T. I know you are losing your T soon, as am I. Are you seeing another one? I am making the transition now and think I will wait until we are completely settled first. Best wishes.

In the U.S. some insurances are willing to not report any details of dependents ages 18-26. You will need to call them and request it, don't ask them. Also, the first line phone reps may not be aware of this, so ask to speak to a supervisor if you get turned down. Remind them of your right to privacy, even with treatment codes.

[eclogite]

I accidentally "out-ed" myself during a hypomanic episode. I still often wish I hadn't because I feel like my mom judges me for it.

As far as YOUR parents, I agree - talk to your insurance company. It's possible they don't have to know at all. Maybe? Good luck.

Ugh I got my parent's help to pay for therapy many-many years ago (1986 maybe?) when I was in college or just after I forget, took my mom to one session and it was a disaster, she sat there and lied her face off, and I quit that t soon after. I didn't try therapy again for a VERY long time after that - not until 2011 with current t!!

[LonesomeTonight]

So, I tried to tell mine that I was having issue with depression while in high school and wanted to see a therapist. My mom didn't seem to take me seriously. Then in the first semester of my freshman year,

Possible trigger:

I attempted suicide

and so they found out the hard way that it was for real...even then, they just attended one counseling session with me, and I went to sessions for a few months. No hospitalization or medication or anything (which my current T says was negligent).

So, best to tell them now.

[Bill3]

If it is okay to ask, what brings you to consider changing pdocs?

[annielovesbacon]

Originally Posted by Waterbear

No experience I am afraid but in a similar situation, feeling the need to tell but not knowing how or actually wanting to. It is tough. I don't know how I will do it but know I will need the support of my T. I know you are losing your T soon, as am I. Are you seeing another one? I am making the transition now and think I will wait until we are completely settled first. Best wishes.

I will be seeing another T but not until August or September. My current T is aware that my parents don't know anything about my situation but she hasn't suggested one way or another whether I should tell them or not. Maybe I'll ask her about it in my last session.

[annielovesbacon]

Originally Posted by Bill3

If it is okay to ask, what brings you to consider changing pdocs?

It's ok to ask! My current pdoc doesn't take me seriously and accuses me of lying to him, he also, despite having access to my T (who knows me WAY better)'s notes, completely disagrees with everything my T has to say (for example, she strongly suspects I'm bipolar but he refuses to agree, he says I'm only depressed and gave me an antidepressant which made things way worse). Also just personality wise he bugs me, which I know is not as big a deal as T, but he's frequently late, doesn't look at me when I talk to him, I feel like he doesn't listen, etc.