[SoConfused623]

Hi Everyone,

For some reason I feel that I need to be completely honest with my T and not withhold info. There is something that I really want to do and I know that T would NOT approve and I feel like I'll have to tell my therapist afterwards. I feel like requesting a break so I can do what I want and not feel like I'm hiding something. Obviously, I could THEN feel like I had to tell her but it would be a month later and probably not at the forefront of my mind anymore.

I once made a decision to NOT lie in therapy because I can't imagine therapy being helpful if you are lying about things. Now, I'm at the complete opposite end of the spectrum and feel like I must disclose everything.

Can anyone relate?

[Elkino]

Is there really no option to tell your T about it and do it anyway? Even when your T doesn't approve?
And I'm not even sure we have to tell our T really everything we do. Although I often feel the urge too and of course some things are more important then others...

I'm completely honest with my T also, but that doesn't mean I necessarily tell him "everything." Not everything is relevant to my therapy, so some things just never come up. That isn't dishonesty; it's just omitting things that have nothing to do with what I am working on through therapy.

That said, is what you are considering omitting directly relevant to what you are working on through your therapy? If it is, then you probably should consider your motivations for hiding that information. If it isn't, does it really matter whether or not your therapist would approve or disapprove?

I don't tell my T and Pdoc everything but I certainly am not dishonest either. If it doesn't seem to have anything to do with what we are talking about I don't disclose it. By the other token, I will offer up stuff that I do think is relevant to the discussion at hand.

[musinglizzy]

Originally Posted by SoConfused623

Hi Everyone,

For some reason I feel that I need to be completely honest with my T and not withhold info. There is something that I really want to do and I know that T would NOT approve and I feel like I'll have to tell my therapist afterwards. I feel like requesting a break so I can do what I want and not feel like I'm hiding something. Obviously, I could THEN feel like I had to tell her but it would be a month later and probably not at the forefront of my mind anymore.

I once made a decision to NOT lie in therapy because I can't imagine therapy being helpful if you are lying about things. Now, I'm at the complete opposite end of the spectrum and feel like I must disclose everything.

Can anyone relate?

I don't lie, but I don't always give everything up either. I think you're doing what we're SUPPOSED to be doing in therapy, that's a good thing!