do you feel safe when with the therapist or at the therapist's office?

stopdog · Apr 27, 2016 at 06:43 PM

Do you feel particularly safe around the therapist?

Apr 27, 2016 at 06:49 PM

I feel very safe with my therapist.
She protects me.
Once, t and I were out together, and a lady got mad at me for something she misunderstood (she thought I was doing something wrong, but I wasn't) My therapist got mad at her and got into an argument with her. My t won.

Luce · Apr 27, 2016 at 06:51 PM

I don't currently see my therapist face to face, but I feel very safe with her. She is our only safe person.

atisketatasket · Apr 27, 2016 at 07:03 PM

Compared to a viper's den, sure. I am not there to feel safe and be lulled into any sense of security.

I have always taken comfort in the fact that I am younger, faster, and physically stronger than they are. Another reason to choose older women as therapists.

Apr 27, 2016 at 07:06 PM

I thougth I felt safe enough but the other day T left his phone on and a text notification came though and i nearly crapped myself . I realised i probably did not feel that safe deep down.

AllHeart · Apr 27, 2016 at 07:35 PM

Safest place for me to escape life for 90 minutes a week.

Argonautomobile · Apr 27, 2016 at 08:16 PM

Once in a while I get that horrendously humiliating inner shift of allegiance to the therapist, like that little voice from childhood that latches onto some port-person in a storm and says 'This person is good. This place is safe. I am okay here.' I promptly distance myself from this by criticizing or insulting the therapist, then feel guilty and have to apologize.

velcro003 · Apr 27, 2016 at 08:24 PM

I put "it is okay." I don't want to run around screaming when i am in there, but i am generally nervous, and well...it is okay.

ruh roh · Apr 27, 2016 at 08:31 PM

I voted other. I don't know what it means to feel safe in a therapist's office (or anywhere, really). My therapist has brought up the topic of feeling safe in her office, but honestly, I don't know how that happens or what it would look or feel like. She has done some things to mitigate the fear factor. There was one thing she did that brought immediate relief, but it was only for one session because she forgot about it the next time and then later asked me to remind her if she forgets again.

Anyway, I am still not sure what it means to feel safe. I am a regular caller of the non emergency police dispatch. They are not very helpful or reassuring. I'm surprised there is not absolute anarchy in the streets with those guys at the helm. The national human trafficking hotline people are great, though. If my therapist's office could feel like that hotline, that would be great.

barbella · Apr 27, 2016 at 08:32 PM

My therapist is a very safe person to be with. I feel most like myself in her office.

LonesomeTonight · Apr 27, 2016 at 08:45 PM

I answered the safe, warm fuzzy one, which particularly applies to my marriage counselor. We recently (like last week) had an e-mail exchange, then a discussion (with my H) in there about why his office is such a safe space for me and how I can create that feeling, particularly with my H, outside of the office.

I didn't used to feel overly safe with my individual T, like I tended to feel more anxious in there. But over the past 6-9 months or so, that's become a particularly safe space for me, too, though maybe not quite as warm and fuzzy as MC's office. (They're next-door to each other, so maybe some of the warm, fuzzy vibes made their way over!)

Apr 27, 2016 at 09:46 PM

At the time I was seeing him I thought it was safe, but looking back I think it was an illusion. It actually was not safe at all.

Pennster · Apr 27, 2016 at 10:17 PM

I feel a mixture of safety and anxiety. I feel safe with my therapist as I trust him to be very kind, but as the space gets a bit crowded with grief and sorrow and all sorts of sads I'm not sure I would say the office feels all that safe. My feelings are mixed.

Apr 28, 2016 at 01:53 AM

MY own T is against me. He made my world totally unsafe. He said things about me to people he NEVER SHOULD HAVE. HE DESTROYED MY LIFE. I don't feel safe anywhere. Who can I ask for help now?? NO ONE.

Apr 28, 2016 at 02:34 AM

It's okay sums it up just about perfectly.

Apr 28, 2016 at 02:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Torntwopcs

MY own T is against me. He made my world totally unsafe. He said things about me to people he NEVER SHOULD HAVE. HE DESTROYED MY LIFE. I don't feel safe anywhere. Who can I ask for help now?? NO ONE.

Although I understand it would be hard to trust again, I think you would benefit from trying therapy again. Some therapists even specialise in previous trauma in therapy or ethics. I had a good idea my current therapist would be ethical and competent because he had written books on aspects of ethical considerations and he was also professionally involved with the professional body in the UK.
Could you look for a T with those kinds of credentials?

Apr 28, 2016 at 03:55 AM

I'm glad you found a good T Echos but my last experience was off the charts! You would be surprised at how many fake people are out there and make money off of being unscrupulous, deceitful and cruel to good people. The places I went to for help were just a front for more lies and deceit. The phony names of organizations, the false pretense of high moral standing, ha! It is all garbage. NO ONE has any sense of standing up for what's right and wrong in this world anymore NO ONE.

Even people who are PAID to protect you are a joke.

itjustis · Apr 28, 2016 at 09:37 AM

Safest place in the world!

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PinkFlamingo99 · Apr 28, 2016 at 01:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Argonautomobile

Once in a while I get that horrendously humiliating inner shift of allegiance to the therapist, like that little voice from childhood that latches onto some port-person in a storm and says 'This person is good. This place is safe. I am okay here.' I promptly distance myself from this by criticizing or insulting the therapist, then feel guilty and have to apologize.

This post made my day today.

TrailRunner14 · Apr 28, 2016 at 07:23 PM

Yes! I do feel very safe. Right now it's the only really safe place I know. I'm learning what that means... boundaries that I've never understood should have existed in my life. As I learn how to be stronger, I think it will still be my safe place but hopefully not my only one. Until (God help me) I don't need it any more.

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Anonymous47147 Guest Posts: n/a	Apr 27, 2016 at 06:49 PM #2 I feel very safe with my therapist. She protects me. Once, t and I were out together, and a lady got mad at me for something she misunderstood (she thought I was doing something wrong, but I wasn't) My therapist got mad at her and got into an argument with her. My t won.
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Luce Magnate Member Since Jul 2008 Posts: 2,709 16 339 hugs given	Apr 27, 2016 at 06:51 PM #3 I don't currently see my therapist face to face, but I feel very safe with her. She is our only safe person.
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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,301 (SuperPoster!) 9 12.4k hugs given	Apr 27, 2016 at 07:03 PM #4 Compared to a viper's den, sure. I am not there to feel safe and be lulled into any sense of security. I have always taken comfort in the fact that I am younger, faster, and physically stronger than they are. Another reason to choose older women as therapists.
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Anonymous37844 Guest Posts: n/a	Apr 27, 2016 at 07:06 PM #5 I thougth I felt safe enough but the other day T left his phone on and a text notification came though and i nearly crapped myself . I realised i probably did not feel that safe deep down.
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AllHeart Magnate Member Since Feb 2015 Location: USA Posts: 2,024 9 2,132 hugs given	Apr 27, 2016 at 07:35 PM #6 Safest place for me to escape life for 90 minutes a week.
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velcro003 Elder Member Since Oct 2008 Posts: 7,368 16 25 hugs given	Apr 27, 2016 at 08:24 PM #8 I put "it is okay." I don't want to run around screaming when i am in there, but i am generally nervous, and well...it is okay.
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barbella Veteran Member Member Since Feb 2016 Location: Canada Posts: 741 8 250 hugs given	Apr 27, 2016 at 08:32 PM #10 My therapist is a very safe person to be with. I feel most like myself in her office.
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Anonymous37890 Guest Posts: n/a	Apr 27, 2016 at 09:46 PM #12 At the time I was seeing him I thought it was safe, but looking back I think it was an illusion. It actually was not safe at all.
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Pennster Poohbah Member Since Aug 2013 Location: US Posts: 1,030 11 442 hugs given	Apr 27, 2016 at 10:17 PM #13 I feel a mixture of safety and anxiety. I feel safe with my therapist as I trust him to be very kind, but as the space gets a bit crowded with grief and sorrow and all sorts of sads I'm not sure I would say the office feels all that safe. My feelings are mixed.
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Anonymous37779 Guest Posts: n/a	Apr 28, 2016 at 01:53 AM #14 MY own T is against me. He made my world totally unsafe. He said things about me to people he NEVER SHOULD HAVE. HE DESTROYED MY LIFE. I don't feel safe anywhere. Who can I ask for help now?? NO ONE.
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Anonymous37925 Guest Posts: n/a	Apr 28, 2016 at 02:34 AM #15 It's okay sums it up just about perfectly.
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itjustis Veteran Member Member Since Feb 2016 Location: England Posts: 577 8	Apr 28, 2016 at 09:37 AM #18 Safest place in the world! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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