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#1
Apr 27, 2016, 03:44 PM
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I have been having a hard time with a negative transference to my T over the last 6 months. Every time I leave I am emotionally unstable for days and it's hard to calm down. This week I asked to play a game instead of talking in a pre-session email. I showed up and he had ALL the kids board games stacked up. I laughed so hard. We had a great time playing games and I left feeling good and happy. I had suggested playing a game with my last T and he laughed in my face and said he only plays games with 10 year olds. I'm curious if anyone else has tried to play a game with their T.
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 AnxiousGirl, CantExplain
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Apr 27, 2016, 03:57 PM
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I can see why ex t is your ex t! This sounds like exactly what you needed. I am glad your t facilitated this for you and that you both had fun. I haven't ever played any actual games with t but I have played other games with her, trying to push her away. Turning up late, not turning up at all etc. I would like to play a game with t, we often do role plays and this feels like a game to me and I often get the giggles. I regress into a child and then t starts laughing too!
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| BrazenApogee
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Apr 27, 2016, 04:09 PM
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Well, there was once when I was getting angry with his phone going off mid session and he never turned the phone off. I asked him to, but he wasn't doing it. So, I showed up with my own phone loaded with alarms to randomly go off loudly during session time. I had so many to make it deliberately annoying. He turns his phone off now.
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| annielovesbacon, BonnieJean, Out There
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#4
Apr 27, 2016, 04:24 PM
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Good for you. Therapy works if you have the RIGHT therapist!! Enjoy the games my friend.
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Apr 27, 2016, 05:03 PM
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Thanks for posting this as I was planning to ask my T tomorrow if I could play a game with her. We are in the getting to know you stages while I transition from my old T and I just feel like I need to take a bit of time out from bearing my soul. I hope she doesn't laugh in my face like your old T did. That doesn't sound great at all. Wonder if anyone else has any experience.
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Apr 27, 2016, 05:18 PM
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I hope you have a good experience too. It was so fun, and it took alot of the tension out of the room. We did talk about a few things, but with the distraction of the game it made the talking so much easier, I think because it wasn't the focus.
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| Waterbear
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#7
Apr 27, 2016, 05:29 PM
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A game might have helped my relationship with Madame T.
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Apr 27, 2016, 08:00 PM
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I would love to play a game with my T! Alas, I've never asked. I'm glad you had a good session.
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Apr 27, 2016, 09:28 PM
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I've played a lot of games with my T. We play rummy a lot and keep a running score. I find it helpful to play and talk.
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| BrazenApogee
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#10
Apr 28, 2016, 03:32 AM
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Oh wow, that sounds like fun. Not sure whether my T would do that with me though.
She seems too serious for that. 
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Apr 28, 2016, 09:39 AM
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I brought in a box of Legos and my therapist and I sat on the floor and "played" as we talked. She was a bit hesitant at the time but mentioned that session during our last session as one of our most productive sessions. Maybe I should bring them in more often.
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#12
Apr 28, 2016, 09:54 AM
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I am glad this one is better for you to work with. I would not play games like that with a therapist. First, I don't really like board games to begin with and secondly because I don't play with therapists.
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#13
May 11, 2016, 05:47 PM
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Update on games in session. Third session using games.
I actually left feeling calm for the first time. Been seeing this T for just over a year and had a really hard time with negative transference. Was able to see him and be in the room without dissociating. Was able to talk. First session with games we played games the whole session. Second, we played games half the session. This one we only played one game mid-session, the rest was talking. Feel relived. 
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| BonnieJean, junkDNA
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May 11, 2016, 06:13 PM
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my t and i have a few times. we also played games on xbox.
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| BrazenApogee
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May 12, 2016, 04:35 PM
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I played some boardgames with my new T in the first few sessions. It was her idea, she thought it might be easier for me to talk to a new T and to get to know eachother. I liked it. It helped me.
I also played a game with my T (on leave) at our last session. That felt really nice. |
| BrazenApogee
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May 12, 2016, 10:01 PM
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Sounds awesome. I have some uneasiness around game playing (growing up I had a mother who was very competitive and never let me win), so that might not work for me. Or maybe it would work when the trust is built up enough? Hmmm..
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#17
May 12, 2016, 10:06 PM
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The Jungian sand tray is a game in a way.
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| BrazenApogee, runlola72
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#18
May 12, 2016, 10:07 PM
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Quote:
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