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May 26, 2016 at 05:08 PM
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I am wondering if this was totally weird or if anyone else ever did anything like this. I doubt it! Last week T suggested drawing a part of my body that I have issues with, so I did. This week I brought my sketches into the session and showed her. I was perfectly comfortable doing that, and it helped T understand something. She even asked me to bring my drawings back next week.
So this is not a question of boundary crossing because it is for a therapeutic reason. But she's not my medical doctor, so I wonder if there are any rules about showing a T part of your body that's usually covered even if it's for a therapeutic reason. I wouldn't have undressed or even shown her a photo, but my drawing seems different. It was such a good session and I felt really close to my T. I can be myself and let myself be seen by her, figuratively and physically. No way would I want to be friends instead! That was in reference to another thread. I'm in uncharted territory with my T, and am surprised how my comfort zone is changing. And that's an amazing feeling. |
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May 26, 2016 at 06:04 PM
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That sounds like an interesting and potentially very helpful exercise. I wonder, does your T need to see the drawing for it to have therapeutic value? Or is it the drawing, thinking, talking that is helpful? I ask because, if it were me, I'd probably do the drawing and talk to T about it, but not bring the drawing to session or show it to anyone. That's what I do when I do writing that I don't need T to read.
You could always ask, too. Something like, "I've made another drawing, but it's of an area that is usually covered so I'm not sure if it's okay to share with you. What do you think?" __________________ "Fantasy, abandoned by reason, produces impossible monsters; united with it, she is the mother of the arts and the origin of their marvels." - Francisco de Goya |
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May 26, 2016 at 06:13 PM
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I think the drawing is more about how you see that body part. Do you minimse or exaggerate it some way. I don't think she wants an anatomical correct representation.
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May 26, 2016 at 06:40 PM
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Well with a drawing I think it could help with shame. In a similar vein I have major hang up about my belly due to.my mom's abuse related to my body. Earlier this spring my T was doing energy work on me on the floor and I twisted around and my shirt came untucked and ended up just under my chest exposing my whole belly. She had probably the best possible reaction which was "this is too good a tickling opportunity to pass up" . she tickled me for about a minute then told me the universe was probably telling me it was time to.let my belly out to see the world....
That kind of reaction to my body from a quasi mother figure was so profoundly healing in so many ways I'm not even able to appreciate them all yet. It healed me a way no amount of praise or approval from romantic partners ever has. So I could imagine a similar effect if you have shame about particular body parts. If its healing for you and your T approves then it seems totally OK to.me |
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May 26, 2016 at 06:45 PM
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I'm not asking if T needed to see the drawing. I needed to show her. I just wondered if people think that's totally weird or inappropriate. I don't think so. I wanted to share how helpful it is when my T goes " out of the box." Quote:
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May 26, 2016 at 06:50 PM
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May 26, 2016 at 08:58 PM
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i once drew a figure of an emaciated girl, naked. like with pubes and everything. and i showed it to my T. that was so long ago i cant remember his response. it was about my eating disorder... pretty much how i wanted to look. ive told my T some pretty graphic things so i dont think its weird
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May 26, 2016 at 09:47 PM
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I think that it is a form of Art Therapy and she probably is using it to see if any insights can be discovered based on what you draw and how you see yourself. That is an interesting approach.
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May 26, 2016 at 09:58 PM
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all i can say rainbow is that your t always sounds super cool, and i really think you should do it if you feel comfortable.
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May 27, 2016 at 04:20 AM
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Sounds safe enough to me. You're allowed to talk about it, after all.
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May 27, 2016 at 08:40 AM
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This is a GREAT idea. I am so happy it is working out for you. I'm going to ask T to give me drawing assignments... I think that having a project to work on between sessions would help with feeling so lost for the span of time I am not seeing him. Thanks!
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May 27, 2016 at 09:33 AM
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I think this is great news!
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May 27, 2016 at 09:42 AM
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May 27, 2016 at 10:08 AM
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I think it sounds like it is good for you. If you think that too then you go right ahead!!
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May 27, 2016 at 10:23 AM
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This is an awesome thread about your T's. I loved that idea of the drawing and I love that some T's do energy work and healing. It took me two years to feel comfortable enough to even talk with my T. Great job on opening up and letting someone in to help! hugs to u all therapy is not for sissies!
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May 27, 2016 at 12:46 PM
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May 27, 2016 at 08:14 PM
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May 28, 2016 at 05:09 PM
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A few sessions ago we were talking about me finding myself ugly and fat. T asked me to draw the front and the back of a person and make the parts I like green and the parts I hate red. T also did it for her. Then we talked about it.
I think it's commen in art therapy. Once when I was in grouptherapy, we also had to draw how see see ourselves. If it helps you, then there's nothing wrong with it. It's a bit like telling T about it, only you tell it through drawings. |
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