[SarahSweden]

For me personally this is a very big question and I feel that if I´m to be able to share things, to open up I also need to know that my T likes me (as a client) and that I have something that distinguish me from others. I don´t want her to think like "oh, no it´s her I´m seeing today" when she wakes up the day she is to see me.

At the moment I feel she kind of likes me but as we have had a rocky start and as I seem to be one of very few clients (from what T herself expressed) with more insight to therapy and techniques than most others I sometimes feel she doesn´t like that part very much. Perhaps it´s more my feeling than hers.

What about you, do you feel your T likes you?

I put as much as, but really I have no idea how much he likes his other clients. I know he likes working with me and I know he has put my poem on his wall so that's all I need to know really.

[LesFleursDuMal]

I don't know if he likes me or not and that's a huge issue for me as I really want him to like me. I've been seing him for more than 2 years and a half. He knows so much about me, I feel very vulnerable with him and he sees parts of me no one else does so I really hope he does. But I don't know. How do you know if your T likes you ? I don't even know how to answer this question.

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[itjustis]

Yes, I can feel it. She has told me too. "I think the world of you" were her exact words. That was nice to hear.

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I put as much as. How would I know any more than that? We get along really well. We like each other as people. I know he cares about me and my entire family. Whether that's any more than he feels for others really doesn't matter to me. What I DO know is that he likes and cares about me, and that is enough.

[rainbow8]

I don't just feel it, I KNOW it because my T has told me many times how much she likes me. I would like to think she likes me more than other clients but I don't think that's true. She is a very caring person and likes, and even loves, all of her clients.

I don't know. I know T cares, but I also know one can care but not like a person.

My T has said a few times that he could not work long-term with anybody he disliked, and I believe him. I have no reason to think he likes me more than any other client and I'm sometimes convinced that he likes me rather less, but rationally I believe that he likes me more or less the same amount. I have no idea what it is he likes about me.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I don't know compared to her other clients, but I know my T likes me. She's said so in many different ways. One of which was telling me she cares about me (which in the beginning of our relationship she said she'd never do).

I also feel that I need to know that my T likes me (perhaps also that she cares about me). It feels hard to talk to her about painful stuff if I don't feel that. I don't really know what her feelings are, I just kind of hope that she does. I reason to myself that I generally accept and like other people, and that she probably has an even greater capacity to do this that I have, and there is no reason why she wouldn't like me. I think that when we see someone vulnerable it naturally brings out a feeling of care in many people.

[atisketatasket]

For some reason the question of their liking me doesn't occur to me very much if at all. Only "am I getting anything out of this?" So if there were an other option I would vote that.

[ThisWayOut]

I think my T likes me, at least as much as she likes her clients. We have worked on and off for 7 years, and she took me back as a client after a 2.5 year break (because I moved away).
Recently, when we talked about the concept of my death/suicide, she said that it would likely be the one time she got mad at me... and she cried a bit. So she's probably being genuine about liking me as a human being.
I wouldn't wnt her to like me more than her average clients, that would be weird... but It's easer to work with her knowing she actually likes me (rather than, as the op mentioned, she thinks "oh gods, her again?!")

[stopdog]

I don't usually think about whether they like me or not. I doubt it with the first one, but it does not really make a difference to me. I think the second one likes me well enough, but again it is not something I think about with her. I have no idea how either feels about me relative to her other clients except that the first has told me other clients love her unlike me. I have no idea what difference that would make for me.

I suppose both therapists I see like me, though really it's hard to know exactly how much.

[velcro003]

Originally Posted by QuietMind

I don't know. I know T cares, but I also know one can care but not like a person.

I suppose this can be true, but I would find it hard to care about someone if I didn't like them at all.

I think my T likes me enough; probably the same as her other clients. Just more like "she isn't horrible to work with and shouts angry things at me all the time..." Kind of thing.

[Myrto]

She has never said that she liked me. However she has said that I'm interesting to her, whatever that means. Yeah, "interesting" doesn't mean much to me but there it is.

[nottrustin]

I know without a doubt t likes me. She had told me multiple times if we met under different circumstances we would be friends. Also, during a family emergency a couple years ago, she offered to help us in way that I am sure is outside any acceptable boundary. I know she probably would not have helped most clients the way she helped me. However, I would never assume she likes me more than other clients.

I ticked 'yes - as much as' .... But its really a very complex question! Thats my 'on the whole' answer. In reality I think he can't stand some parts of me, and other parts grate on him a lot. He quite likes a lot of parts, and likes more than most another part. Taken as whole, I think he is professionally liking of me as much as any other of his clients.

[SillyKitty]

I put as much as, but I have only ever run into one other patient because of a scheduling problem. She's usually pretty careful to leave some time between appointments. I have to assume she likes me, or I won't trust her enough to talk to her. She has taken me back several times after I abruptly quit, so I feel like she must care. It's not like she needs the patients, as she keeps herself pretty booked, and I seriously doubt my insurance is paying her the normal rate.

[LadyShadow]

I have been with my T for 9 years, and in the beginning he may not have liked me too much, like "oh god its her again today" but over the years me and my T have developed a special bond.

When he was promoted to head of the Psychology Department at the treatment center I go to he had a choice of just a few clients that he could keep. And he chose me as one!

I felt pretty special, and sometiimes my T tells me "how is my favorite client today?" Makes me feel really good. I am in in a good place too, maybe that's why.

[MobiusPsyche]

"Yes, as much as..." because I have no idea how she feels about her other clients. I do feel she likes me, although she finds me challenging in some ways.

[calibreeze22]

I was one of the "no" answers. T is not great at masking what I take in as annoyance and disinterest, and specifically told me she didn't want me to call her if I was feeling especially low. I've never talked to her on the phone or traded a single voice message. Until a couple of days ago (when I told her I felt she wasn't always listening and didn't really want to see me), the only emails we'd exchanged were when I was running late or she was verifying our time. Still, she helps and she keeps seeing me at a reduced rate, and learning how to read and deal with body language and social cues are part of the reason I sought therapy, so I don't want to rock the boat. It doesn't seem she needs patients, either.

[21stCenturySM]

My T works wonders for me. In the past 3 years she has gotten me to do all kinds of things like leave my house more and keep up my hygiene. She is great

[awkwardlyyours]

I find it rather comforting that I'm absolutely in no danger of my therapist liking me -- I mean yeah, it's possible that she doesn't experience the same feeling of overwhelming dread and nausea that I feel at the prospect of seeing her but beyond that, I would be truly shocked if my presence engenders any warm feelings in her.

That is as it should be -- therapy as I know it would be largely impossible in the absence of such not-liking.

[bounceback]

I am not sure about my current therapist because i have only seen her about three times. I think all the other ones I had liked me enough. Some I were more sure than others. One thing I do know, I didn't like them when I first started seeing any of them. I stuck with them though and learned to like them.