[sinking]

Yesterday i opened up with T and she didnt get it. i was shaking in her office while she was reading my innermost secrets and she kept asking questions about something else that was not the point and against my beliefs. i felt so disappointed and upset. i still feel weird and have mixed feelings about the session. i feel like theres no point in seeing her again. what should i talk about next time? it was never a problem until yesterday.

[Waterbear]

My T has missed the point, entirely, sometimes. If it is the first time, is it not worth just discussing it with her, if that is possible?

[satsuma]

I did worry at the beginning of therapy about my T not respecting my beliefs. But he does - I just needed to explain them very clearly as he doesn't share them and so didn't really know about them.
If you feel able, I recommend having a conversation with T and explaining as clearly as you can about what your beliefs are, and also maybe let her know when she was saying something that went against your beliefs. Then you will give her a chance to know and respond, and I think you will see from her response whether she will be able to understand and respect your beliefs.
At the beginning of therapy this was a barrier for me, thee were certain topics that I wouldn't speak about with T, because I thought he wouldn't understand. But then he said "can't you give me a chance" and a friend I spoke to said the same. I gave him a chance and he did not let me down. Also I think he understands my beliefs very well now, because I gave him a chance by explaining and he listened carefully and took into account all I had explained from thereon in.

[sinking]

i already tried to explain myself more and better but she just couldnt get it or believe me. i know she cares about me but it has happened other times. thats why i never fully opened up to her. she wont believe me and wouldnt change her mind. i dont see any point in trying again. but i need her.

[sinking]

I saw my T again today and we talked more about my current issues and my CSA. She showed me she does get it and i feel so much better now both for her understanding and talking about what i needed, even though when i got there i felt my mind going blank. it was a good session and i sent her a thank you message when i got home. it was such a good session!
thanks for reading

[Demunie]

Originally Posted by sinking

I saw my T again today and we talked more about my current issues and my CSA. She showed me she does get it and i feel so much better now both for her understanding and talking about what i needed, even though when i got there i felt my mind going blank. it was a good session and i sent her a thank you message when i got home. it was such a good session!
thanks for reading

I'm glad it went well! It's good that she seems to understand you

[growlycat]

Thanks for posting the follow up. Sometimes i wonder if people are ok when we don't hear from them again. I'm glad your t is improving her ability to understand.