[meander]

Hey guys,

This is my first post in the therapy forum, my issue is actually about a counsellor but I guess it fits in here.

I've been seeing this counsellor for about six weeks now, since my depression took a turn for the worse. The thing is, she wants me to bring my sister and my boyfriend along to the next appointment on monday.... I'm not entirely sure what to expect, or whether it will be helpful or not.

I'm not even entirely sure what I'm trying to ask you guys, has any one else done this? did it help? is it all a huge mistake?

Any feedback welcome,
Thanks,
Meander

[silentlyscreaming]

Did the counsellor say why he/she wants to involve others?
It really depends on the type of relationship you have with your sister and boyfriend, and how much involvement you want them to have in your recovery.
My mum has come to a couple of meetings with my T, and I found it beneficial. She found out things that I wasn't brave enough to say to her myself.
Ultimately, it's up to you. Do what you feel comfortable with. If your counsellor wants a meeting with them, do it in your time, and when you're ready. It doesn't have to happen right now.
I hope this has been helpful.
Good luck

I'd never bring anyone into MY therapy. You can say NO, don't be afraid too.

[meander]

I can't really think of a reason not to... but I'm not even sure what she hopes to get out of it.

I have really close relationships with both of them, and they both know what I'm going through...

Or would this be more for their benefit? I'd do anything to help them through this, it can't be easier having a sister/gf who's depressed...

Did your T discuss this with you - then you could voice your reservations (if you have any) and/or doubts. It can help sometimes to bring in family members etc. but only when the client is ready and/or willing. Basically, it ought to be your decision and what is more comfortable for you. Otherwise, I don't see that it can be all that helpful.

If you are not sure yet, I think it is important to discuss this with T as it may suggest you are not ready yet. But maybe further down the line you might consider 'inviting' them...