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Jul 19, 2016, 04:41 AM
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I have been trying a couple of sites that offer e- therapy.
I had a first session last week with a male e-therapist He straight away asked me what I had done to cause the bully to bully me. What had I done to cause the man to bully me. I was really taken aback by this. It felt like victim blaming to me the man has later explained that he was bullied and LET the bully bully him. So he wanted to help me notice what I did to cause it to happen. I was bullied by a psychopath who is notorious for bullying woman and no matter how I tried to stand up to him, confront it, he just kept going. What I did to make it happen more is that I defiantly did not leave my work and I did not cower and I did not let him get away with it. In the end, he sacked me anyway, for standing up to him. I think this mode of therapeutic approach is suspect. What do you all think? |
 88Butterfly88, Anonymous37941, Skeezyks, thesnowqueen, Yours_Truly
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#2
Jul 19, 2016, 03:07 PM
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Outrageous... despicable... mental masturbation...
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#3
Jul 19, 2016, 03:13 PM
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The therapist acted unethically and unprofessionally, to say the least. Victim blaming is not a therapeutic approach I would ever accept.
Good for you for standing up for yourself. |
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#4
Jul 19, 2016, 05:27 PM
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Yeah.... that would certainly rub me wrongly....If its betterhelp you can ask for a switch!! no questions asked. but they always appreciate feedback and customer service is really good..
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#5
Jul 21, 2016, 04:27 PM
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When I challenged him on it, he went on at length in an email about how he was bullied and was too weak to challenge the man and so he feels he let the bully keep bullying him and that is why he was challenging me on this. I was bullied by a man who was a bully and no matter how much I stood up to him he bullied me. Grrrrrr |
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#6
Jul 21, 2016, 04:33 PM
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His stuff has no place in your therapy - there can be no good reason for him asking you what you did to be bullied, the person responsible for bullying is always the person who is doing the bullying. He sounds like he needs to sort his own stuff out before working with someone else.
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#7
Jul 21, 2016, 04:41 PM
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That's terrible! You need a new t.
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