[Service Cat]

I wonder if I should keep it to myself because she might think that I am a stalker.

In my dream I am late for therapy, and in the end I am so late that I miss the entire appointment, but I decide to go to the clinic anyway to pay her for the session, since I'm already close. Then I get there but she is not there, and someone tells me where to find her by looking her up on his computer. The screen shows where her car is and she is driving to a seminar. Then I get in my car and I have the same thing on my computer and I go to the seminar to see what she is up to. It's a talk on sexism in sport or on TV, and I don't agree with the part of the talk that I hear.

What do you think of this dream? Can I discuss it?

[retro_chic]

I'm not sure what your dream means but I recently told my T about a dream I had about her and it went really well. I had the dream a few months ago and it took me that long to work up the courage to tell her because I too was worried she would think I'm weird/creepy/a stalker. My dream involved T getting changed so yeah... it was awkward but T didn't seem uncomfortable at all and encouraged me to talk about more dreams in the future.

I hope you can talk to you T about this and that it goes well for you too!

Yes, I think you can. Unless she believes that all dreams always represent the exact truth (in which case I'd doubt her qualifications, but that's me) she'll understand that you are not actually stalking her. It sounds like it could lead to an important discussion - what might the various parts of the dreams represent in your subconscious thinking?

[Service Cat]

Originally Posted by Crocus

Yes, I think you can. Unless she believes that all dreams always represent the exact truth (in which case I'd doubt her qualifications, but that's me) she'll understand that you are not actually stalking her. It sounds like it could lead to an important discussion - what might the various parts of the dreams represent in your subconscious thinking?

I have a few ideas about this.

1. I always dream about being late for things.

2. I do cyber stalk T. I google her and I found her address once.

3. I don't like political discussion. Sometimes everything is called sexist when there are other explanations.

[Perna]

It's a dream, no more under your control than the rest of your unconscious. It is supposed to be helpful to you, show you things you might want to discuss with T (and give you a way to discuss them). T, I think, would be thrilled if you'd tell her the dream. I told my T my dreams about her, including the one where I had my head in her lap and she was stroking it! and one where she was a co-lesbian with a group therapist I'd had 10+ years before (neither were lesbians :-) etc.

Your T will probably have some ideas what the dream might mean that you haven't considered? I always was afraid of being late for therapy and dreamed about it a few times; had to stop once and do the "right thing" and be late or continuing on to therapy and not help the people who only I could help (I stopped :-)

Googling T is not stalking. Stalking would be literally going to her house and following her, in person. I use to look my T up in the phone book, regularly (and myself :-) to make sure she still existed and reassure myself. The first time I saw T in a new place, she wrote a note to me, personally, and put it on the outside door to tell me how to get to her exact office and I kept the note in my wallet for a year or more (and then gave it to her, discussing having kept it). There is lots of good things to discuss with a dream between you, helping with the subject matter. You can talk about not liking to be late and worrying about it (I could not understand for many years, why being a couple minutes late would bother me so) and why you feel bad wanting to know more about T, be close to her and are looking up her address, etc. It can be very helpful to your therapy.