It was for supervision. She said she wouldn't supervise me and I asked to meet her. She said she would be happy to meet with me. It was an awkward five minutes. She spouted on about ethics and her personal beliefs about supervising ex clients. I felt it was all ethical nonsense, stuff she had read from the IACP website that sounded good. I had a major crush on her when I seen her as a client which was about 5 years ago and now as I met her today she was arrogant and condescending. I am glad she won't see me as a supervisor. I don't think she is attractive anymore and I feel she met with me today just to be nosey and find out where I trained. I actually hate this woman.

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[itjustis]

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

It was for supervision. She said she wouldn't supervise me and I asked to meet her. She said she would be happy to meet with me. It was an awkward five minutes. She spouted on about ethics and her personal beliefs about supervising ex clients. I felt it was all ethical nonsense, stuff she had read from the IACP website that sounded good. I had a major crush on her when I seen her as a client which was about 5 years ago and now as I met her today she was arrogant and condescending. I am glad she won't see me as a supervisor. I don't think she is attractive anymore and I feel she met with me today just to be nosey and find out where I trained. I actually hate this woman.

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It's funny how people change, and during personal growth you can see people differently.

I'm just starting out to train as a counsellor, so I would love to know what her personal beliefs are on supervising an ex client and the ethics around it? If you don't mind sharing of course!



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Originally Posted by itjustis

It's funny how people change, and during personal growth you can see people differently.

I'm just starting out to train as a counsellor, so I would love to know what her personal beliefs are on supervising an ex client and the ethics around it? If you don't mind sharing of course!



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Good luck with your training itjustis. Are you excited about your training?
I don't mind sharing, she said it wouldn't feel right to her no matter how long it had been since she saw me as a therapist. Currently there has to be a gap of three years or since you started your training. Ex t said working with me would contaminate our present relationship and would have a ripple effect on my clients. I really do think it would have had a huge affect on clients . In a way I am glad because I couldn't work with her and I seen that this evening. I swing from having erotic transference to negative transference very quickly with her.

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Lol

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[itjustis]

I'm SO excited to start! It's down to my own counsellor that I thought of doing it. She brought out a hunger in me for it if that makes sense? I've learned so much from her. I thought about doing it a few years ago, but looking back I was nowhere near ready.

What made you want to be a T/counsellor?
How long have you been training for? How long do you have left?
I'm sorry, I don't mean to derail your thread!


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Originally Posted by itjustis

I'm SO excited to start! It's down to my own counsellor that I thought of doing it. She brought out a hunger in me for it if that makes sense? I've learned so much from her. I thought about doing it a few years ago, but looking back I was nowhere near ready.

What made you want to be a T/counsellor?
How long have you been training for? How long do you have left?
I'm sorry, I don't mean to derail your thread!


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That's ok
I have been training for 5 years and am going on to do my degree this year! I am glad you are getting so much from your t, it's certainly brings self discovery to a whole new level.
I wanted to become a t because I was fascinated by therapy and slightly obsessed with the process of it.
I have had five bad experiences with different therapists and so I wanted to see if I could make a difference and learn from my bad experiences. I wanted to provide the things for my clients that I never got in therapy. Mainly security and non judgement. I hope to be able to really hold someone through the depts or their transference. I am not afraid of erotic transference, I will not terminate anyone unless they threaten my safety.


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[itjustis]

I'm sorry you had so many bad experiences, but glad you want to do something with that and try to make a difference.

I have had quite an intense maternal transference with my T and she didn't flinch at all, she was happy to talk and talk and talk it through!
I was also attached, which she worked through with me too. That was the hardest thing to go through!

My T and I dealt a lot with my inner child and attachment.
This is something I would like to help other people with, as well as other things! And like yourself, I wouldn't be scared of people becoming attached or having intense transference unless it threatened my safety.



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