[Creamsicle]

I have a really bad feeling. My T, who always, always responds to emails, isn't answering. It is so unlike her. I am going back-and-forth between being scared that she has decided not to answer anymore and to dump me vs. being really concerned that something has happened to her and that she is not OK. This is just really not like her. I don't know what to think.

[Ellahmae]

Can you call and ask?

[ilikecats]

How long has it been since you sent the email? Maybe something did happen, but not to her. Like maybe a family member is in the hospital so she hasn't been able to check emails. Or maybe she never received the email somehow. Did you type her email in correctly? I doubt she decided to stop responding without talking to you about it first. And it's not likely that something bad happened to her. I know it's hard, but try not to worry. Maybe she's just been really busy. Let us know if you get ahold of her.

[Waterbear]

I can understand your worries but the above post is sound 'advice'. If you feel you can call or text then I would do that but I know in the past I have just had to sit and wait it out and see what happened in session (because I didn't have the confidence to check).

My T was supposed to text me about scheduling last night but it didn't come and so I text her to check to see if she had forgotten and she had. I was OK with that though because I trust her and I feel much more secure with her recently.

I hope you can find out and become settled.

What you are experiencing is 'Catastrophic Thinking' and Separation Anxiety. There are some wonderful CBT tools out there (just look up De-catastrophic thinking worksheets). They basically take you through the process of organizing your thoughts between worst case scenarios, best case scenario, and most likely. Chances are, when you write it down the worst case list is short in comparison. Doing this makes me feel much better but I take it a step further and consider the worst case scenario and make a plan of action should it arise. This not only soothes the fear but actually makes me more confident about facing it. I think observing the likeliest case scenarios might help with the separation anxiety too.

[growlycat]

I have had this happen to me too. Most often it is an email failure or t got busy and missed it. Rarely has it been that t decides not to answer

[Gavinandnikki]

Originally Posted by Creamsicle

I have a really bad feeling. My T, who always, always responds to emails, isn't answering. It is so unlike her. I am going back-and-forth between being scared that she has decided not to answer anymore and to dump me vs. being really concerned that something has happened to her and that she is not OK. This is just really not like her. I don't know what to think.

I understand, and empathize with you.

Is she ignoring me or is she dead?

I hated it, but there was always a reasonable explanation.

Hang in there, I know it hurts.

[Creamsicle]

Thank you so much, everyone!!!! All of your responses have been so helpful. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. My T finally did email back - it turns out something was wrong with her email the last few days and she wasn't seeing new emails properly. Sheesh, I feel so silly but I was so worried. It was just so unlike her. I think what added to my concern is that I know she has genuinely been a little bit unwell physically the last month, so I was concerned that it had become something serious. We also have been having a little bit of a rough patch so it wasn't good timing with that either. Boy, this stuff can make you crazy. Thank you so much everyone for being here.

[growlycat]

I called it . Only because it has happened to me many times

this stuff can definitely make a person crazy!! i'm glad you heard back from her.

It drives me crazy when that happens with my T! It has happened quite a few times over the years. I get convinced she is sick/ dying/ dead. However it has always just been because of internet issues (we live on other sides of the world, dont meet in an office), or because she had to he somewhere in an emergency.

[Bipolarchic14]

We do have a tendency to overthink things and suspect the worst.