[88Butterfly88]

I'm scared of offending t today. I'm a clergy abuse survivor and am frustrated with what happened to me and religion in general. I'm afraid t will think I'm attacking her religion. I have this fear because I said something on another online forum and was told it was offensive to Christians. I'm not anti-Christian, I'm just frustrated with my so called Christian abuser and with my personal religious viewpoint. I think t is Christian so I hope if I say what I said to her she doesn't get offended. I really need to say it, it's causing me great distress. Should I be worried? Do I need to censor myself?

Originally Posted by 88Butterfly88

I'm scared of offending t today. I'm a clergy abuse survivor and am frustrated with what happened to me and religion in general. I'm afraid t will think I'm attacking her religion. I have this fear because I said something on another online forum and was told it was offensive to Christians. I'm not anti-Christian, I'm just frustrated with my so called Christian abuser and with my personal religious viewpoint. I think t is Christian so I hope if I say what I said to her she doesn't get offended. I really need to say it, it's causing me great distress. Should I be worried? Do I need to censor myself?

I don't think you really need to censor your self or apologise for your distress or opinions about what happened to you. Somethings truly awful happened to you by censoring yourself you are silencing yourself all over again.
I think a lot of people confuse what happened as an attack on their religion and their beliefs instead of seeing what really happened was nothing to do with their beliefs it was to do with the individual catholic priests who happened to represent their religion and beliefs and rather than accept that perhaps there is something very wrong in the Catholic Church and who they get to represent the church, it's easier for Catholics to turn a blind eye or to attack people or victims of the churches abuse.
I sincerely hope your t can separate her religion from your therapy and that you won't need to censor yourself!

[88Butterfly88]

Thank you!

All of the Christians I know would be offended - horrified actually - by someone in the church in any way abusing someone reaching out to them for care. I don't think you need to worry about offending your therapist. If you run into ANY therapist who would be in any way offended by you being the victim of anyone, you need to run the other direction.

[88Butterfly88]

Thank you Lola!

[Perna]

In my experience, my T only got offended if I said something referring to her that was offensive; she did not take what I said about others, personally, in other words. There are all kinds of "Christians" just like there are all kinds of "men" or "women" and I don't think you are saying all Christians are like your abuser but saying something specific about your abuser and I would not be surprised if your T agreed with what you might have to say.

[88Butterfly88]

Thank you Perna.

[growlycat]

If your t is more offended by what you have to say than being offended by what was done to you, then her priorities are out of whack. Like others have said she probably will not be offended.

[88Butterfly88]

Thank you growly.

my t and i have talked a couple of times about her being offended- once by me, and several times by people she used to have as clients

I've been harmed by fundamentalist Christianity and my T is Christian.

She doesn't get offended, despite my huge fears about her getting offended.

[88Butterfly88]

Thank you all! T wasn't offended and didn't even see how what I said was offensive to Christians.

[snarkydaddy]

Yes I offend mine twice. Because I was blunt & she was caught off guard. This happened the same day on this first visit. This is no longer a problem.

[growlycat]

Thanks for the update Butterfly!!! Glad it went well

[stopdog]

I can't imagine why they would bother.