[hopealwayz]

Maybe I'm better off without therapy.

[rainbow8]

Originally Posted by hopealwayz

Maybe I'm better off without therapy.

Maybe you just need to find the right T for you. Please don't stop searching.

[itisnt]

Sometimes, some people actually do better out of therapy. I'm not saying that is going to be the case for you, but it's worth a try. I'm currently not seeking therapy and I've come to the conclusion that a T, even a "good" well-trained therapist, isn't the end all to be all. I have found other options. I go to a lot of discussion groups (NOT therapy/emotion based groups) to engage my mind and broaden my world view. I volunteer at least one time a week for a cause that I am passionate about. I try to "afford" a good massage at least twice a month. I go swimming A LOT (I'm lucky to live in a warm climate). I take a three mile brisk walk every morning with my best companion, my dog! And then I do another mile to a mile a half every evening with her, this is a slower, more nature appreciating walk to fill the sense and push aside the worries of the day. I make sure I connect with friends for coffee or lunch in the park or at a local "cheap" food joint at least once a week. I have to make the EFFORT to do this because otherwise I sit at home and isolate. Not good for me. And I say I have to make the effort because it's too easy for me to sit at home and get miserable about no one calling. I've learned through therapy that friendships like love relationships require a lot of work and attention.

A few times a month, when I hit a bump in the emotional road, I really think about going back to therapy. Then I go online and begin the search for one. That cures me pretty quickly LOL Being in therapy is a lot of work and is very expensive. I found that it helped the first three times I did it; it didn't cure me, but helped. I then give up the search relatively quickly and find that I don't continue down the emotional roller coaster road. I have come to the conclusion that there are other things out there that serve me just as well. I really hope that things get better for you whatever you decide. I guess I just wanted you to know that NOT returning to therapy really isn't the worse thing in the world. It can actually be pretty good. Take care.

[QueenCopper]

Know one knows but you. I hope you continue your search and find someone that can guide you to help you. I have wanted to quit but I am terrified of the consequences of me doing that.

Good luck.

[OliverB]

I am thinking about the same, sincerly, better off therapist.

But maybe it would be better to take a break and then re-think the situation.

[Queas5y5]

I was hurt very badly by a T over a period of years. I never did anything to hurt him and he took everything from me. I'm drained and feel like the life has been sucked out o me.

[missbella]

I love this post. In my opinion, even if one finds the ultimate therapist (I never did) I believe it still comes down to us finding comforts, passions and creating a meaningful life. It can be satisfying just finishing the kitchen cleaning or watching a good movie. I've by no means a master but have gotten better at this as years go by. I also believe in body work. Besides massage, there's yoga (free videos are on the internet), foam and ball rolling etc.

Originally Posted by itisnt

Sometimes, some people actually do better out of therapy. I'm not saying that is going to be the case for you, but it's worth a try. I'm currently not seeking therapy and I've come to the conclusion that a T, even a "good" well-trained therapist, isn't the end all to be all. I have found other options. I go to a lot of discussion groups (NOT therapy/emotion based groups) to engage my mind and broaden my world view. I volunteer at least one time a week for a cause that I am passionate about. I try to "afford" a good massage at least twice a month. I go swimming A LOT (I'm lucky to live in a warm climate). I take a three mile brisk walk every morning with my best companion, my dog! And then I do another mile to a mile a half every evening with her, this is a slower, more nature appreciating walk to fill the sense and push aside the worries of the day. I make sure I connect with friends for coffee or lunch in the park or at a local "cheap" food joint at least once a week. I have to make the EFFORT to do this because otherwise I sit at home and isolate. Not good for me. And I say I have to make the effort because it's too easy for me to sit at home and get miserable about no one calling. I've learned through therapy that friendships like love relationships require a lot of work and attention.

A few times a month, when I hit a bump in the emotional road, I really think about going back to therapy. Then I go online and begin the search for one. That cures me pretty quickly LOL Being in therapy is a lot of work and is very expensive. I found that it helped the first three times I did it; it didn't cure me, but helped. I then give up the search relatively quickly and find that I don't continue down the emotional roller coaster road. I have come to the conclusion that there are other things out there that serve me just as well. I really hope that things get better for you whatever you decide. I guess I just wanted you to know that NOT returning to therapy really isn't the worse thing in the world. It can actually be pretty good. Take care.

[LucyG]

There's a time and place for therapy, but I believe that there's a mindset that if you're depressed, having bipolar, anxious or another mental illness, you need to see a Pdoc several times a month as you can't run your own life. I totally disagree.

Pdocs and other therapists need clients and what better way to ensure the success of their practice than to convince the client that they need years and years of on-going therapy?