The chairs seemed closer

This week during that intense session, the chairs seemed closer together.

I don't know if they really were or if it was some sort of psychological closer I was feeling? Like I didn't want him to go away on vacation?

Has anyone else experienced this or something similar?

Should I bring a measuring tape and ask him to leave the room for a minute?



2 weeks 4 days till my next appointment with T.

Hmm. I think whether it was physically closer, or just psychologically closer, it was close regardless of what measuring tape says. Feeling closer before him leaving is a GOOD thing, and a good feeling to hold on to while he is away.

My T for the last few months has moved her chair right next to the couch where we sit/lay. Last session she sat right next to us on the couch and held us.

I always sit in the chair farthest away from my T....heck if I could put a hole in the wall and drag the chair through, I would!

I experience my T's chair seemingly to change distances. When I think back on what we talked about in a session, if it is a connected, intimate conversation it seems like she was sitting very close to me. The opposite is true as well.

I sit on a couch and she sits across from me in a big comfy chair so they don't move in between sessions and definatlely not during one. I guess this is my emotional reaction. I like it though, it gives me a gauge for how I'm feeling with T.

I always had trouble with me/my T being physically larger or smaller :-) She was a little Asian woman and I'm a hulking. . . but sometimes it seemed more pronounced.

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Should I bring a measuring tape and ask him to leave the room for a minute?

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Ask him to leave? No way. Just start measuring.



I guess you really have to think about how close you felt to him, emotionally. And that might account for the chairs seeming closer. Either way, I think something very important happened because you are naturally experiencing a sense of closeness and together. Yes, rationally you can think of where it's coming from... but the important part is that you're feeling it.

So, should I tell him the chairs seemed closer?

By the time I see him again they might seem farther away!



2 weeks 4 days till my next appointment with T.

I experienced the same thing with my T! I'm glad you brought up the subject I didn't really know how to explain it to my T, so I just told him that my memory of a few sessions seemed really distorted. I didn't go into detail with him, but he seemed really far away during one session. We were doing EMDR during another session and he was sitting right in front of me the whole time, but I somehow remember him sitting next to me on the couch for a short time (which he didn't). During that time, he had asked me to talk about a really difficult subject. The memories seem almost surreal at times, like when I see him as sitting far away it's almost like he is sitting at the end of an invisible tunnel . This is very strange. Keep me posted!

I've had this same experience! I noticed it early on when my memory of the session seemed that he was very far away. Once I think I even mistakenly remembered him as sitting behind a desk (something he has never done). Other times I remember the chairs being very close to one another.

This past session he actually came and sat on a stool that was closer to me. He's never done that before and I'll remember it. I felt very close to him then.

Sidony

My T often sits in his "therapy chair", which is a swivel office chair with a backrest strapped to it. He is then quite mobile and can move closer or further to me as he needs to. Sometimes he comes quite close, like when he does "the move" and pulls really close and looks into my eyes to say something really important. But sometimes he will not use this chair and will sit on a couch across from the one I sit on. Then we are further away. At first, whenever he did this, I would really miss him, and wish he were closer. But one day when he arrived, he somewhat gleefully sat on the couch and stretched his legs out on it and said "ahhhh," like now he was comfy. I asked him if his back hurt. And he said no, just that he had been sitting in that chair (gestured at the swivel chair) and he needed to get out of it and unfold and stretch out (he is a tall guy). Then I thought, well, how nice he feels comfortable enough with me to get comfortable himself, and I took it as a complement to our closeness. So usually now, he sits on the couch for me (my appointments are near the end of his very long day). If we do EMDR, though, he always sits in his swivel chair pulled up really close to me. For couples therapy, my husband sat on the opposite couch where T would sit, and T sat in his swivel chair at right angles to us, equidistant from each. I think the whole seating dynamics thing is fascinating. I think if I came to T's office one day and he had rearranged all the furniture, I might not be able to handle it. It might take me 2 months or so to get used to it, lol. ("I don't feel safe here anymore because you changed the furniture," she said. )

Well, now this is getting more interesting.

I have also had the phenomena of a memory of T in different spots in the room sort of as if he jumped or flew around. But he has never been anywhere but in front of me.

He sits in a big leather sort of swivel with one of those round metal frames on the bottom so his chair does not roll around but I think it can turn; and this week I noticed him using the lever on the right side and I sort of thought of it as T's rocket ship! This is the chair that appeared closer this week.

We did some EMDR a couple of times also and then he moved an ottoman to sit right next to me. But when we were finished he went back to his rocket ship.

Hmmmm, I wonder what that moving around the room thing is?

Damm, it's still 2 weeks and 4 days till my next T session.

<font color="green">Hmm, there are times that she seems closer to me than others, what I find the most troubling are those times that she is suddenly way far off - like I am looking through a telescope or down a long hallway to see her. At times she seems to grow or I shrink to become in size to match my memories.</font>