[stolen_innocence08]

hi

over the past ive grown to really love my therapist. in a session a few weeks ago my t said he felt protective over me and cared about me, and said he felt maternal towards me.

i get that as i can feel it.

its just hurts.

[junkDNA]

my t has told me he feels protective over me...hes never said anything like he feels paternal over me... but i kinda gather that a little from our relationship. it is a weird feeling though...

[stolen_innocence08]

is it normal? it is a really weird feeling.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by stolen_innocence08

is it normal? it is a really weird feeling.

Sounds like transference (from you) and countertransference (from your T). Which is very common, so I guess you could call it "normal." My T has admitted to having some maternal-type feelings toward me, and I have a bit of maternal transference for her, too (not anywhere near the paternal transference I have for my marriage counselor--not sure if there's countertransference there or not, but probably at least a little). In a way, it's nice to know she cares for me in that way. But I also see how it could be weird or scary if you're not used to having people care for you like that, particularly people from childhood (like your parents).