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Aug 24, 2007 at 02:13 PM
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I'll just apply the trigger but I'm not sure if this would trigger any of you.
After learning during my last session, that my family and my husband are against me, I'm left with who can I trust besides my T? I haven't slept well since the session. I have this fear that my husband is going to run off with my son or hurt me to get rid of me. I managed to get him to admit yesterday that he did in fact have conversations with my mom. He said he didn't realize this would cause a ripple effect in my family. That is a flat out lie. He knows how my family is and how they feel about me. I still struggle with why? what the heck am I doing that is so bad? I have a great full time job, I'm not doing drugs or drinking excessively, I love my son and do as much as I can for him. I do have cyclothymia and ADD so I know that I can be hard to be around but I'm working on that. I just feel the urge to take our savings and just go with my son. I could go to a hotel first maybe. I actually slept part of last night in our walk in closet. I've done that before once. It's something I used to do as a teenager because my mom threatened to come in my room while I was sleeping and scratch up my face, she said then no one would think I was beautiful. She admitted this in therapy with my T earlier this week. I think it is having more of an impact on me than I realized. __________________ My new blog http://www.thetherapybuzz.com "I am not obsessing, I am growing and healing can't you tell?" |
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Aug 24, 2007 at 02:27 PM
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Hello Almeda. I am sorry that you are struggling at this time with all of this information being heaped on you at one time. If you are not sleeping better soon I would call the therapist to have your meds adjusted if needed. take care. Soidhonia
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Aug 24, 2007 at 03:21 PM
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((((almedafan))))
</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> almeda24fan said: After learning during my last session, that my family and my husband are against me, I'm left with who can I trust besides my T? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Your son? Your friends? </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> I haven't slept well since the session. I have this fear that my husband is going to run off with my son or hurt me to get rid of me. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I'm not saying your fears will happen, but we do have fears for a reason. There is a great book I would like to recommend to you called The Gift of Fear, by Gavin De Becker. "True fear is a gift. Unwarranted fear is a curse. Learn how to tell the difference." </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> I still struggle with why? what the heck am I doing that is so bad? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Do you need to know why right now? You are not doing anything that is bad. You are taking steps to make your life better. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> I just feel the urge to take our savings and just go with my son. I could go to a hotel first maybe. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> If you are unsafe, then you should leave. There are battered women's shelters that you can go to, and they can also be good sources of advice on resources in your community. But if you think you really are safe and just reacting due to stress and hurt, then you should not leave the family home, as it can be difficult to get back in once you leave (e.g. if you and your husband separate, the one in possession of the house by virtue of living there often gets it). If it is intolerable being in the same house with your husband, can you ask him to leave? If you are considering anything like separating or moving out or have grounds for fearing your husband will run away with your son, please consult a lawyer. Even just an hour's consultation can do a lot to inform you of your rights, things to watch out for, and things to avoid doing. It can be reassuring and doesn't necessarily mean you are considering legal action. It's just a way to get good advice. ((((almedafan)))) __________________ "Therapists are experts at developing therapeutic relationships." |
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Aug 24, 2007 at 03:34 PM
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I understand your pain and your inability to trust.
I just wanted to let you know, I can relate. ((((((((((((Almeda)))))))))) |
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Aug 24, 2007 at 04:26 PM
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What a horrible feeling
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Aug 24, 2007 at 05:08 PM
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(((((((Almeda))))))))
Maybe you can ask your T for some sleeping meds to to help you for a short time. It helps me when I can get some ambien. |
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Aug 24, 2007 at 10:31 PM
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Is your fear of your husband hurting you a rational or irrational one? I only ask because I have a lot of irrational fears and if yours is rational I am very concerned for you and want you to be safe.
When you wrote what your mother said to you as a teenager, I hurt inside for you.  When is your next appointment? Could you call T to express some of your concerns? |
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Aug 25, 2007 at 12:15 AM
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almeda, I'm really sorry you are going through this. It sounds so painful. I hope you see T soon.
I agree with Sunrise's suggestion. Even if you don't think you want a separation, I'd encourage you to just meet with an attorney because it is always better to have more information. A lot of attorney's will give you a free information session to start or they'll charge you less for the first meeting. |
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Aug 25, 2007 at 09:13 AM
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Soidhonia said: Hello Almeda. I am sorry that you are struggling at this time with all of this information being heaped on you at one time. If you are not sleeping better soon I would call the therapist to have your meds adjusted if needed. take care. Soidhonia </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Thank you for your kind words __________________ My new blog http://www.thetherapybuzz.com "I am not obsessing, I am growing and healing can't you tell?" |
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Aug 25, 2007 at 10:05 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
sunrise said: ((((almedafan)))) </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> almeda24fan said: After learning during my last session, that my family and my husband are against me, I'm left with who can I trust besides my T? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Your son? Your friends? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Yes I do have my son and his friend nicholas today for a few hours. They are a breath of fresh air. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> I haven't slept well since the session. I have this fear that my husband is going to run off with my son or hurt me to get rid of me. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I'm not saying your fears will happen, but we do have fears for a reason. There is a great book I would like to recommend to you called The Gift of Fear, by Gavin De Becker. "True fear is a gift. Unwarranted fear is a curse. Learn how to tell the difference." </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I will look into this book thank you sunny </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> I still struggle with why? what the heck am I doing that is so bad? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Do you need to know why right now? You are not doing anything that is bad. You are taking steps to make your life better. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I want to know because there must be something about me that is unlovable...I know that sounds negative but this has happened my whole life. It can't be by accident. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> I just feel the urge to take our savings and just go with my son. I could go to a hotel first maybe. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> But if you think you really are safe and just reacting due to stress and hurt, then you should not leave the family home, as it can be difficult to get back in once you leave (e.g. if you and your husband separate, the one in possession of the house by virtue of living there often gets it). If it is intolerable being in the same house with your husband, can you ask him to leave? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> This is good information. I do plan to see an attorney soon. I just need to find one. I think maybe I had the episode in the closet because of the intense feelings after the session and realizing that my husband has not been helping me he's been hurting me. all this time, he was telling me things were in my head and my fault... </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> __________________ My new blog http://www.thetherapybuzz.com "I am not obsessing, I am growing and healing can't you tell?" |
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Aug 25, 2007 at 10:07 AM
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jmo531 said: I understand your pain and your inability to trust. I just wanted to let you know, I can relate. ((((((((((((Almeda)))))))))) </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> thank you so much 
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Aug 25, 2007 at 10:09 AM
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debbie_tabor said: What a horrible feeling (((((((((((((Alameda)))))))))))) </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> It certainly is one of the worst feelings any human can experience. __________________ My new blog http://www.thetherapybuzz.com "I am not obsessing, I am growing and healing can't you tell?" |
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Aug 25, 2007 at 10:11 AM
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esthersvirtue said: (((((((Almeda)))))))) Maybe you can ask your T for some sleeping meds to to help you for a short time. It helps me when I can get some ambien. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Unfortunately, Ambien caused some sleep walking among other things. I take Trazadone and that works. __________________ My new blog http://www.thetherapybuzz.com "I am not obsessing, I am growing and healing can't you tell?" |
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Aug 25, 2007 at 10:20 AM
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pinksoil said: Is your fear of your husband hurting you a rational or irrational one? I only ask because I have a lot of irrational fears and if yours is rational I am very concerned for you and want you to be safe. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Probably irrational but it felt real. The thing is I'm in a state away from all my friends in Pa. I have some here but they are busy with their kids, lives etc. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> pinksoil said: When you wrote what your mother said to you as a teenager, I hurt inside for you. What was worse was having her admit to that to my T and hearing her say that she was jealous of me. she kept saying 'she was beautiful and I was jealous'...I don't know it became too real when she talked about it. T didn't say anything to that part. I wish he would have. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> pinksoil said: When is your next appointment? Could you call T to express some of your concerns? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Next Wednesday and I'm miserable. I should have stayed a minute and talked to him. I could have sent my mom to the car. he looked surprised that I just bolted out (I never do that). I just wanted to stay with him and not go with her. I felt like I was leaving the only safe place and person that I trust. __________________ My new blog http://www.thetherapybuzz.com "I am not obsessing, I am growing and healing can't you tell?" |
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Aug 25, 2007 at 10:21 AM
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Lemon said: almeda, I'm really sorry you are going through this. It sounds so painful. I hope you see T soon. I agree with Sunrise's suggestion. Even if you don't think you want a separation, I'd encourage you to just meet with an attorney because it is always better to have more information. A lot of attorney's will give you a free information session to start or they'll charge you less for the first meeting. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Yes I plan to meet with one and determine my options. Thank you for your kind words __________________ My new blog http://www.thetherapybuzz.com "I am not obsessing, I am growing and healing can't you tell?" |
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