[AnxiousandAlive124]

So, even though my T reacted well to my admission of transference, I set up an appointment for tuesday the 17th with the new potential T/sexologist I was referring to before. I'm planning to just see what may work out for me there since I got a good vibe and my insurance is accepted too, and in case I have a limit on what I prefer to discuss about my transference for current T. Wish me luck on the 17th and with my next appointment on the 13th! Also, is it normal to have 2 T's at a time for a short while? I'm just trying to see what helps me best. I don't plan on telling current T about potential T if I don't have to, do you think this will be problematic?

[Cleo6]

Good luck with your appointments. I think it's ok. When I started therapy a few years ago I started doing cbt online through the nhs. I knew our time was coming to an end and I was really struggling as there was this big issue we hadn't dealt and I just kept crying and all I wanted was to keep speaking to her but we had done 15 sessions and that was more than the maximum with so just before we finished I found a private t as I couldn't cope with the thought of another t finishing before I was ready. I didn't tell cbt what I was doing as at the final session she said I could refer myself back to her but would have to wait 3 months I think. I carried on seeing private t but all I kept thinking about was I needed to tell cbt t the other stuff. I waited the 3 months and although I felt attached to new t I was still obsessed and crying over old t. I referred myself back and managed to get her again and completed 18 cbt sessions with her. Neither t knew I was seeing the other, new t knew about cbt but I told her it finished a few weeks before I started seeing her. I'm really glad I did it. I felt closure after I finished with cbt t which I never felt the first time. She did say I could refer myself back to her to do sessions on my low self esteem. I'm tempted as I only see new t fortnightly as that's all I can afford and I miss the weekly sessions but haven't made my mind up. It's been 5 months since I've done cbt so can phone up anytime to restart and every so often I will think about her but I'm not obsessed like last time so I don't know what I'm gonna do but if you think it will help you especially as they follow different models I would go for it

[vikingr48]

I think it is perfectly OK to have 2 therapists at the same time but only as a transition to one. Competing interests and issues are hard to solve, especially when you are having troubles. You are vulnerable.

It is really good you recognize transference and move on. Very good sign.....Applause.