[theorc]

Imagine you are standing in front of a door. Further imagine on the other side of that door is your dream life. What would you see if you opened the door?

Do you know? How may your therapist help you attain what you desire?

[tooski]

Originally Posted by theorc

Imagine you are standing in front of a door. Further imagine on the other side of that door is your dream life. What would you see if you opened the door?

Do you know? How may your therapist help you attain what you desire?

I think I need him to listen, nonjudgmentally and for a long long time, until I finally figure it out for myself. No one can tell me anything.

I don't buy into dream life's. Life is in the moment.

In my dream life, I would wake up in the morning refreshed, I would be well enough to go to normal high school (I'm attending a special education school now), I wouldn't need my PRN medication, and I would be able to enjoy something now and again. Also I wouldn't be irrationally afraid of things - I don't mind being rationally afraid, that just keeps you safe.

I would be able to look at myself in a mirror and see the person t sees. Not just sometimes, but ALL the time.

I definitely never had problems dreaming up things and making plans but with time and age also learned not to take them extremely seriously, life is far too unpredictable to rely on steady, linear progress. And so are my desires at times. Life is definitely in the present moment, as Mouse said, still if we only lived for the moment, then there would not be goals to work for and we would not discuss therapy here.

Originally Posted by theorc

How may your therapist help you attain what you desire?

I think many of them claim they can help with coming to realizations about our real needs and strategies and with removing emotional roadblocks. My experience has been that this can indeed happen in subtle ways over time if it's a good and compatible therapist-client combination (whatever that means). But reading on this forum for a while now, I think it's also true that sometimes therapy can create or expand distorted self images and roadblocks and prevent the person from actually going for their dreams in everyday life.

[ADeepSandbox]

Me wearing a cute sundress, frolicking through a Swiss meadow barefoot, surrounded by a dozen bouncing, smiling golden retrievers. One of them is carrying a picnic basket for us. There's no one around for miles and I have succeeded in becoming a hermit who eschews all human contact and frolicks through meadows at noon on a Monday accompanied by an alarming number of dogs.

If you know a therapist who can help me become the hermit dog lady expat of my dreams then please let me know!

But slightly more seriously. Mostly I need a new job that pays well. To live in a pretty place that gets lots of sunshine. Some anti depressants. And less stress. And a dog. Seems simple and yet...