[Elio]

I have lots of shame. Has anyone seen the discussion of their shame being reflected back as contempt from their t?

[awkwardlyyours]

I just started reading the article (looks very interesting) and so, can't comment on it as yet.

I did feel that my former therapist held me in contempt (my impression from day one) and ultimately (especially towards the end), it became mutual. One would wonder as to why I started in the first place with someone around who I had such a feeling -- it was basically just so familiar (cliche of the mother holds true) and I was trying my damnedest to 'win her over'. Of course, she always denied the contempt and told me it was a projection (of my ever-present shame).

I don't think I was off-base about her though -- I haven't felt that for instance with current T or any of the other therapists I've interviewed. So, I think there is something to be said about specific T-client dyads which evoke these feelings on either side.

I have lots of other thoughts on this topic but will stop here for now.

[ruh roh]

I can't get it to open or download.

[Elio]

Originally Posted by ruh roh

I can't get it to open or download.

What error are you getting? Browser? It is a pdf...are you on a computer or phone?

Not sure if this works for others or just me...Can you get it from: https://forums.psychcentral.com/atta...5&d=1484511421

What if you right click, do you get a save target as... option?

See the IT in me go to work here.

[ruh roh]

I'm not getting any kind of error. I'm on a computer. I click on the attached image, which is black, and nothing happens. The link you just posted works fine though. Thanks!

[brillskep]

I can't see a link to an article or anything like that. Just a question. And to answer, no, I've never felt contempt from my therapist - maybe a sort of disrespect during the worst part of my therapy with him, but never contempt.

[brillskep]

Originally Posted by Elio

What error are you getting? Browser? It is a pdf...are you on a computer or phone?

Not sure if this works for others or just me...Can you get it from: https://forums.psychcentral.com/atta...5&d=1484511421

What if you right click, do you get a save target as... option?

See the IT in me go to work here.

Oh great! That worked for me - thank you!

[BrazenApogee]

Interesting, and makes some sense. I have a shame problem, and in my efforts to understand it I have been faced with contempt. It never occurred to me before reading this that there might be a connection between those two emotions. I'm not sure if my T has contempt counter transference reactions to me, but I wouldn't doubt it. It might explain a few things, like him offering me out of session help but never following through.