[hopealwayz]

Right now, I cannot even begin to imagine that I will ever be over the mountain of the loss and pain of my Ex-T terminating me. It's hard to wrap my head around a time when it won't matter to me anymore.

i totally understand. when my t dumped me years ago,i was positive i would never get over it. it damaged and hurt me so bad and in so many ways, and it was all i could think about.
there was just so much paun over the terrible way she dumped me (out of the blue, i had no idea it was coming)& i didnt ever find out what i did wrong.

the first two years were the hardest.

now it is nine years later, and i am over it. 99% of the time. i do think about it once in a while. and it still hurts on occassion. so many things i wish i could say to her, both angry and sad, and i still miss her at times.
however, i managed to move on- still not sure how, other than i got busy helping others, and then throew myself i to my work.
i am now able to focus on what i learned from the experience. and also, i did learn a lot and changed a lot- even in positive ways, although at the time i was sure i would be in a terrible state the rest of my life.
it will fade. i promise. if i can get over it, i lnow for sure that anyone can.

[seoultous]

Wow. Do you think you will seek out another T? Maybe you could talk with a new T about this experience to help you process it.

I don't know if it will ever not matter anymore. What I do know is that at some point something may just click inside you that helps gain some closure. I don't know what happened with the termination as I don't read many threads here, but we all learn things in spite of our experiences-good or bad. I know it's rough and I understand the pain because I have to fight everyday with every ounce of energy I have not to contact my XT. Even though I got last word in on my situation-it's still an uphill battle. So I understand just wanting to get over that hump.

[growlycat]

I was hospitalized and abandoned by a t in my late teens. It was devastating. But then I had the best t in my life just after that. Even my other t's have been wonderful after a bad start with others early on. Once you start bonding with s t you like you won't care as much about what's his name.

[Parva]

I'm sorry I have to ask, but I live in fear that my T will pop in one day and dump me. I ask her all the time if she's going to terminate me....So why did your T terminate you all?

I think this is horrible. I just don't understand why and how this could happen...

i have no idea why my t dumped me. she is still there in the same office, all thse years later. but.... i guess she just gave up on me.

[Myrto]

I'm sorry you're feeling that way Hope. I was terminated by my therapist two months ago. I miss her all the time, think about her all the time but after two months I can definitely say that the pain has become more bearable. You will get there eventually too. I also thought that I would never get over her but now I think I will.

[wheeler]

With the help of good and understanding therapist, and time, I've gotten thru a lot of the initial agony of exT leaving . It hurt like hell but I'm getting to a better place and a much better a T.

[Out There]

Time is a great healer and you will feel better in time. We do learn and grow from these things although they're painful. Also they don't say much for the people who do this , do they ?

[hopealwayz]

I'm still overwhelmed by the whole thing and perhaps that is what is keeping me stuck. Or, perhaps, it's just disappointing knowing that he is blaming me for the whole thing and won't own up to his part in the termination of my therapy. His reactions makes it seem like my whole therapy was inauthentic and scripted. So, I feel anger at myself too for trusting him with secrets that no one else on this earth knows and for allowing myself to be vulnerable. He couldn't handle his countertransference or personal reactions and they flooded over into my therapy and instead of working through his issues, he kicked me to the curb.

Then, he said that he would make the transition easier for me but then after my 1st appt. with another psychiatrist, he then told me that he wasn't my doctor anymore and to contact the other Pdocs office. That is not my idea of a smooth transition to me.

I am so sorry its so hard My heart breaks for you. I know what youre going through. Try to just give things time to settle. I know its so painful to do that. But time will help, I promise.