[hopealwayz]

After the struggling and waiting, I just want to cancel my T appointment. Every other week doesn't work for me so I may just quit therapy.

Wouldn't you rather have every other week with a good therapist, rather than no therapy at all? It may not feel like enough for you, but at least it's something. I'm just not sure what you'll gain by stopping therapy altogether.

[growlycat]

Why not wait to talk to your t directly? This whole thing sounds like a huge misunderstanding.

Originally Posted by hopealwayz

After the struggling and waiting, I just want to cancel my T appointment. Every other week doesn't work for me so I may just quit therapy.

Have you spoken to your T about how you feel? Maybe when another space becomes available you would be able to go every week? I know you were getting on well with this T so maybe at least talk to them about how you feel before you quit? My T is about to go away for 8 weeks and I'm not looking forward to it one little bit but she is such a good T and helps me so much that I would rather wait for her to come back than quit.

[LonesomeTonight]

I agree with the others--you won't gain anything by not going tomorrow. Talk to your T, see if you can work something out. Maybe you'd be able to do a brief phone check-in on the weeks you don't see him. Or the e-mail thing you suggested. Or he might be able to start seeing you weekly in a month or so, just not right now. Hang in there...

You really haven't given this a chance to work yet. You like the therapist. Give it some time and see if you can adjust. You know you can't afford weekly appointments anyway, so why not give this a few months. Work with the therapist on skills for maintaining between sessions and see if perhaps you are more capable of handling this than you give yourself credit for.

[AllHeart]

I hope you go today so you can discuss these thoughts and feelings with your t. He may have a helpful idea or two for you. You have been struggling and anxious for this appointment to happen so consider not throwing in the towel now that the appointment time is finally here.

[precaryous]

You may feel bad and remorseful after the appointment time slips by and you don't go. Then it may feel like an emergency to see T again.

Please go and just talk it out with T, ok?
((Hope))

[Trippin2.0]

Seems very counter productive, even self sabotaging.

I hope you don't cancel.

[hopealwayz]

You are all right. Now I feel so nervous. I have to tell him how I feel but it's making me feel guilty for asking for his time.

[Salmon77]

I think lolagrace's advice is really good here. Based on your previous postings I feel sure you would regret it and be upset if you did not go to your appointment tomorrow. Plus if your T has a 24-hour notice policy for cancellations like many do, you'd probably have to pay for it anyway. So might as well go and see what he says about weekly appointments and about ways to cope when you have to go longer. If he turns out not to be helpful, you can always look for another therapist, but why not keep what you've got until you find one?

[AllHeart]

Originally Posted by hopealwayz

You are all right. Now I feel so nervous. I have to tell him how I feel but it's making me feel guilty for asking for his time.

How did it go?