[iheartjacques]

T is leaving. I know logically he isn't my friend but I feel like I'm losing my best friend and tears still fall down my face everyday when I think about it. I had him for 3 years.
He asked do I need another T? He can refer me to someone else. I have someone I can see but only for short term.
I've got a divorce coming up, and court again. So I feel like I'm going to need more support during that time than I can ask for from family or friends. I need that safe place to dump my baggage and sort through it.
Crossroads. Time for someone new, or just cry it all out and try to get on with my life?

[ScarletPimpernel]

I would take the referral just in case you need it. If you don't, no harm, no foul. But if you do need extra support, you have a name to try out.

Sorry you're going through a lot.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I would take the referral just in case you need it. If you don't, no harm, no foul. But if you do need extra support, you have a name to try out.

Sorry you're going through a lot.

I agree with Scarlet--sounds like you could really use support right now. Take the referral, try meeting with the new T, see how it goes. The new T can also help you process losing your current one. Also sorry you're dealing with so much, and losing your T in the middle of it.

I would take the referral even if I don't use it immediately or at all, it takes nothing for your T to give you the name. As for actually using a new T or not, I think only you can assess that adequately. It sounds like you want the support, and if so, go for it.

[campervanman]

Hi iheartjacques

As the others` have suggested, take the referral (Good advice!) It doesn't necessary mean you have to use him/her! Knowing that they are only a phone-call away, just gives` you that safety buffet and peace of mind!!

Take care and all goes` well for you...................

I can't add much valuable advice since there is lots of great advice here. Just saying that I echo people's voices when they say you should try the new T

Anyway, I just wanted to offer you some support. I also hope things go smoothly even though I know you're in a rough spot.

I cried when my first T terminated with me, and I had only seen her for 3 months ish. She happened to be a horrible T, but I still had some kind of attachment to her. Basically, I had the whole "friendship" thing that you felt and I was going thru a lot of bad things in my life. So I very much understand. It's hard. But you will get thru it! I promise!

What helped me a lot was posting on PC. I know that kind of sounds silly, but I like being able to vent and have people support me thru my struggles. I just want my voice to be heard, even if no one is going to respond to my threads or posts. So please, do take advantage of all your resources... friends, family, PC, possibly new T, etc etc

[iheartjacques]

Thank you. I forget I feel better when I share here or read other people's experiences here. Will have to stock up on tissues for a while!