this happened last year and I need to know is this normal in psychotherapy. My therapist told me he was going to leave. It was during after maybe 1 month of therapy. Also during my therapy with him I told him how it wasn't working and then he tells me after telling him. That he wasn't doing psychotherapy. I asked why? And he said he likes helping people? But Im thinking doesn't psychotherapy help people. Anyway he told me this because I asked is he going to leave because all of my previous therapist have left. He said yes because his wife is sick of paying for the bills and she doesn't like him doing psychotherapy. Which Im thinking wow your wife sounds really bossy and demanding. I also thought it was none of my business to know and he seemed really sad about it. I felted really awkward. So he was going to buy land and build apartments he told me. I knew that it would take a year! For the council to accept it. Because councils here are SUPER SLOW!. He aaid to me its a stupid idea eh? I didn't say anything. Again I feltes awkward. I didn't thought it was a stupid idea. So anyway I freaked out because I don't want another therapist to leave. Because I already have gone through 6 since age of 10 though different time periods.
So Im thinking not again! I have to start all over again and they have to gain my trust and I have to say about my life story again!!! So I seek another therapist we name them Nettie. So my therapist wasn't happy about this. He seemed pisst off. Apparently he try to get me to see him outside the free services but it cost $30. Because he was.leaving public free health system. . After seesion he past off a side comment saying it took alot of hard.work and he seemed annoyed by it.
Nettie I saw 3 sessions and I have to pay $530 which she did rubbish all. Im still paying it off. I guess its my fault. I eventually told him this year about it and I said ahe was a b word. And he laughed. Wasn't sure he was laughing at me because I have to pay the bill or me calling her b word
Anyway he told me he not leaving.
Later around November he told me this which still bothers me. He said he feels like he is walking around egg shells around me and he can't say anything because Im.super sensitive and he feels he not good enough. That he understands how my partner feels and how Nettie felted. I was so upset about it and it run through my mind over and over and my partner causing stress on me that I had to go.over there and see his evil mum. I cut myself. I haven't told him the part of reason I cut myself was what he said. I don't think he understands how.much stress and pain he caused. When you get the feeling that your therapist is not taking the job seriously and you just feel played at. Like a toy and how he was pushing for me to go a different type of therapy. I feel he was trying to get rid of me because he feels he not good enough. He keeps telling he feels he not good.enough that he inexperienced. I asked another session it bothers me he says that and he asl me do you know why? I said because you inexperienced and he said no and laughed. I feltes he was laughing at me l. I felted embrassed and dumb
I get the feeling he hates me. Probably dreads that Im his client. I can tell by his body language. He can say words but body language says another story.

So now Im super angry at him. Its a job say you are some librarian or real estate agent or account. You are dealing with people lives. Its a double edge sword. You don't know if they gonna die next week and you have no client. Yeah great job for taking your job seriously.

Sorry you're struggling so much with this dynamic. I honestly think you need a therapist who is not a student. You don't appear to be getting therapy here; he sounds very inconsistent and I get the sense you have quite complex needs when it comes to therapy.

[Erebos]

I am from the UK so I know getting a therapist through the nhs can be a bit hit or miss.
It does sound like you have some choice though so I would advise getting rid of him.
He is telling you far too much about his personal life and it isn't your responsibility to have to worry about that.
Nor should you have to worry about his feelings.
Being able to cope with the over sensitive is pretty much a prerequisite for being a therapist, the comments he made about your partner and Nettie are absolutely unproffessional.
If He can't manage that he should consider a career change.

On the plus side I dint think he is mean, just ignorant. Although I dint think that is any better tbh.
I understand you don't want to change your therapist again.
So what are your options?
Which do you feel would be best in the long run?

Working through this rupture and hoping this guy can learn on the job,
Find someone new.
Take a break before starting again.
Or maybe find a second support to go alongside your therapy.
I don't really know the best option for you personally. But
I do hope you find some resolution.
Take care.

I agree with Erebos. He doesn't sound very professional or competent. I think that no therapy is better than therapy from someone who is not competent, as therapy can be harmful.

That sounds hurtful that he described you as super sensitive and that he said that he feels like he is walking around on eggshells. Hurtful and unhelpful. I would describe myself as super sensitive, but exploring the things that my T says that bring out an emotional reaction to me is at the heart of my therapy. We discuss my emotional reaction, and my T usually explains what she meant by what she said, which might not be what I had supposed. I think that my emotional reactions are usually because of buried pain from childhood. It feels healing.