[snowangel17]

Have many here experienced this? The more I am in therapy the more I see the things that are wrong in my current relationship which thus causes issues as my partner is happy out as things are and seems baffled by my unhappiness and apparently my neediness. We are also in couples counselling. I am not sure if it is helping. Has anyone here had success with couples counselling?

[stopdog]

I haven't personally experienced it = possibly because I did not experience therapy as useful. But it is a fairly known situation

[ArtleyWilkins]

Sometimes as we start seeing things more clearly and start advocating for ourselves and perhaps setting different/healthier boundaries, there can be push back from the people in our lives who see and are affected by those changes they see in us. I know when my husband and I were both going through therapy (some of it as a couple), there was a period of shifting in our communication dynamics that to some adjusting to. It did improve over time and we are much more solid in our relationship now. But yes, it can upset the proverbial apple cart for awhile.

[Salmon77]

That doesn't sound like therapy is "negatively affecting" your relationship, more like therapy is showing you things about your relationship that aren't working so well for you. It is healthy and good to be able to see problems that exist, so you can start working on them, even if that isn't always easy or comfortable.

[Omers]

I am definitely experiencing this although my partner doesn’t “see it”... currently my individual therapy is moving me too fast for couples work but I hope to if the marriage makes it that far.