[stopdog]

Do you think the therapist does unique things for only you?
The first one I see has said she only does not do X or Y for me (Or more accurately - you are the only client who has ever wanted me not to do X). But she has told me about other things that she has done for clients that I find horrifying and that she has promised (for what that's worth) never to do at me. So while a specific thing might be unique to me (or the absence of those things) - the idea of doing unique things for each client is not unique to me.
I was wondering if others see the therapist as doing something for only them or for most of the clients who would want such a thing.

"Only" for me? I have no idea. Specifically for me and my family. Absolutely. He has specifically gone beyond the call of duty on many occasions over the years doing things that were unique to our situation. And he certainly may do similar things for other clients. I would have no way of knowing that.

my therapist is incredible, and goes above and beyond- and we have done a lot of wonderful things together- the beach, climb a mountain, visit each others homes,gone shopping together. however, my t has such a big heart that she probably does special kinds of things with all her clients. i do know there are several things that i do with her that no one else does, but thats because of my career and what position we are both in to influence the public,

[SoConfused623]

There should have been, "ABSOLUTELY NOT!" My ex-therapist even told me that she withheld more info from me than her other clients because we had a history. The history was that I looked her up online and told her about it. She was so mad about me violating her privacy that she would not answer questions for me that she'd answer for others. I've since moved on to a new T.

[atisketatasket]

I know that No. 1 and No. 3 said they did, if they were not lying. That did not go well. The others, I don't think so (though they went into the song and dance I have never seen a client like you before and therefore I will have to approach your case differently, though I never noticed them doing anything about it).

CW has been specifically warned that I prefer seeming indifference. So I answered Good lord, I hope not.

Eta: and just to get the pollster's lot is not an easy one out of the way early, "unique things" makes it sound like the therapist is doing something no one else does. Like slaying a giant or something.

[BayBrony]

I know there are at least 2 things She only does with me...but this is at least in part because i am the only client who WANTS her to do those things. Maybe she would do then for someone else if they wanted her to.

[growlycat]

I don't think kashi would get in the car with another client with a driving phobia. I'm probably not special I may just be his first person to need this.

I don't think he reveals so much about himself to most clients. I may not be the only one.

I think he only has one or two other clients that he walks outside with

I think I'm the only patient he has taken the train downtown with walked around and stopped for a meal with. Bad sentence structure but you get the idea

This might mean that there are things that he has done for others that he hasn't with me.

I put maybe cuz I dunno. If I were to venture a guess, I would say if she does, it would just be the shamanic stuff since we are both into that. But I really wouldn't have any way of knowing, of course.

[awkwardlyyours]

I know for a fact (since I've been told so by current T) that the answer is 'No'

Former T told me she was doing unique things just for me -- from her own other (very contradictory) statements, I deduced that it was a flat-out lie.

(Sorry SD, I really couldn't help adding on the blinkie thing)

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I know that No. 1 and No. 3 said they did, if they were not lying. That did not go well. The others, I don't think so (though they went into the song and dance I have never seen a client like you before and therefore I will have to approach your case differently, though I never noticed them doing anything about it).

CW has been specifically warned that I prefer seeming indifference. So I answered Good lord, I hope not.

Eta: and just to get the pollster's lot is not an easy one out of the way early, "unique things" makes it sound like the therapist is doing something no one else does. Like slaying a giant or something.

Hence the choice of "what do you mean by unique?"

[LonesomeTonight]

I said "maybe." I know with T, she's said there's one other client who e-mails her regularly. And she was hugging other clients before she was OK with hugging me. So I doubt with her that there's anything she does for me that she doesn't do for other clients.

With marriage counselor, I'm less sure. I know he texts (and I assume e-mails) with other clients. However, for the other couples he sees, I'm not sure if he allows individual out-of-session contact with any of them (like, one member of the couple contacting him via text or e-mail), as he does with me (text and e-mail, occasional phone calls). He discloses quite a bit about himself in general. But there were a few stories he told during one of his two individual sessions with me to address my transference that seemed particularly personal--about an ex and about who he wished his father had been and how he dealt with him not being that--so I'm not sure if he would have necessarily shared them with other clients. (The father thing related to my paternal transference--not sure about the ex story.)

[AllHeart]

My old t did very unique things for only me. In my case, this uniqueness was harmful to me so I hope never to have a t do anything unique for me again.

[Elio]

I think my therapist does unique things for each of her clients because we each are unique people with unique stories and unique needs. So yeah the word "only" in your question leads me to a no.

Well, not to be negative, but how do we know when they're not lying? "Of course you're my special little munchkin!!!"

I'm inclined to believe my T, of course, but I guess you never know for sure... And even if my T did do unique things for me, that's not to say she won't do the same thing for other clients in the future. Therefore, is it truly unique? Maybe she's doing something for me that appears to be unique, but she is in fact just using me as a ginuea pig

Food for thought

[growlycat]

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

Well, not to be negative, but how do we know when they're not lying? "Of course you're my special little munchkin!!!"

I'm inclined to believe my T, of course, but I guess you never know for sure... And even if my T did do unique things for me, that's not to say she won't do the same thing for other clients in the future. Therefore, is it truly unique? Maybe she's doing something for me that appears to be unique, but she is in fact just using me as a ginuea pig

Food for thought

Made me laugh. Kashi recently said something like I'm glad to see one of my favorite people and I said what do you mean I'm not your favorite (half joking half Not joking and wanting to be true) he gritted his teeth and said you might be but I don't think I'm supposed to have favorites.

So yeah put me down for special munchkin

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

I know for a fact (since I've been told so by current T) that the answer is 'No'

Former T told me she was doing unique things just for me -- from her own other (very contradictory) statements, I deduced that it was a flat-out lie.

(Sorry SD, I really couldn't help adding on the blinkie thing)

If I said that last line, SD would respond, "Couldn't help? You could have helped it. You just didn't want to."

So apparently she does unique things for you. *pouts*

[awkwardlyyours]

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

If I said that last line, SD would respond, "Couldn't help? You could have helped it. You just didn't want to."

So apparently she does unique things for you. *pouts*

But, of course

(Might as well be hanged for a sheep as a lamb etc.)

ETA: Dammit, ATAT -- I'd just had the brilliant idea that I'll stop posting for a while and hang out on the lovely 999 perch and.......you you you you....just had to.

[1stepatatime]

she may go over the allotted 50 minutes but I doubt that she does extra stuff for me. Unique? Each client that she sees has their own stuff that they bring to session so I would think each session is unique.

[Sarah1985]

yes, my therapist gave me a couple of recordings and she said that she's done that for another client before

[luvnola]

I've no idea. My t doesn't share with me what she does with other clients.

[junkDNA]

I think he has but mostly in the past

[annielovesbacon]

I said maybe - it's hard to know, because my T doesn't talk about what she does with her other clients. Every client is different so it is certainly possible that T and I talk about things or she gives me homework/books that she doesn't give to anyone else, but I have no way of knowing.

[velcro003]

I put "no," because I am pretty ordinary as a client. I know she allows email/texts/phone calls, but she told me I could do all of those things before I ever used them.

Other than that, I don't see how she could do anything 'unique' for me, as we just sit in a room and chat once a week.

[kecanoe]

I would say that my ts do stuff for me that they don't do for all of their clients, but I am probably not the only one. T2 has it set up that if I call the emergency line (they rotate who has the responsibility for that) that the t in charge will contact her, rather than trying to sort me out themselves. I am sure that she doesn't do that for all of her clients, but I am pretty sure that I am not the only one. T1 lets me run late when there is no one after me. I doubt that I am the only one he has ever done that with. T3 told me that if I was her last appt of the day we could run over, which would be beneficial for the kind of stuff we are doing. Again, I doubt that I am the only client she has ever done that with. And perhaps there are things that they do with other clients that they don't do for me.

[satsuma]

I think my T does things for me that he doesn't do for his other clients. He will text and email me, and sometimes if I need some extra support we arrange to speak on the phone, and I know that he calls me when he's on his lunch break. He couldn't call everyone because then there would be no lunch break! So that's why I think he does things for me that he doesn't do for everyone. But having said that, I believe he's comfortable with these things and so maybe he has done them for people in the past, or maybe he does it for just a few people.
I asked him about it once - I said something along the lines that if he did these out-of-hours things for everyone, he would have no life. And T replied that not everyone has the same needs and not everyone is doing the same kind of therapy.

I like it because it does make me feel special - but not TOO special, then I would be freaked out!!