[Sarmas]

I'm having a tough time after my kids therapy yesterday and my therapy session today. My son wanted me to be with him during his session. He confronted his T about him feeling that she's not on his side and that he was bothered by her calling him unfair when he told his father that he was uncomfortable being left alone with his girlfriend. She denied saying that when I was there. I tuned out because I was upset. Then I spoke and she sent him out. She got defensive although she said that she's not defensive. She turned the tables around and said that because I'm upset that now the boys won't trust her. I said that's not my doing. It's what she said that is the issue. I'm upset as a parent.

Then I saw my T today which my T and my boys T are best friends. My T said to me that she doesn't want to hear anything that I have to say about my boys T. I was really bothered by that. I thought that during session she's suppose to not take things personally. So I can't vent about certain people in my session? That doesn't make sense to me. I don't know. I came out of my session depressed and frustrated. All of the goals and whatever we are suppose to be working on in therapy now doesn't mean much to me.

[precaryous]

I commend you for trying so hard to work this out. I would feel frustrated, too.
I don't know if I would waste my time and pay these two people to treat me like this.

Can you interview more therapists?

[Erebos]

I would be furious, on both counts.
Your son is entirely within his rights to express his discomfort at both the situation with his therapist and his dad's girlfriend.

The response from your T was totally unproffessional, not only would I be pulling her up, I would be looking for another T.

Sorry your going through this. All the best.

[growlycat]

I agree that you should fire both of them. Sorry you have to deal with this!

[Sarmas]

My T has been trying. However I have seen certain issues. Protecting or not wanting to hear complaints about your best friend is an issue. When she's in session she's my T and I'm venting about someone else that has caused a disturbance in my sons life. Only just so happens to be that my sons T is her best friend. The same thing happened when I had a compliant about a professor in school. She's a professor herself so she didn't take that well. She tells me "talk about you. I don't want to hear about someone else". The issue is that my life consists of interactions with someone else and this issue deals with that. I couldn't speak about it.

It showed me that she took sides. Instead of hearing me out she shut me up and placed boundaries as to what can be spoken and what can't be spoken. All I thought is here we go again. This is another example where my word means nothing because the person I'm telling has chosen a side before I could even speak.

[growlycat]

I read your other post. You are being too generous. They both need to go.

[stopchewinggum]

Originally Posted by Sarmas

My T has been trying. However I have seen certain issues. Protecting or not wanting to hear complaints about your best friend is an issue. When she's in session she's my T and I'm venting about someone else that has caused a disturbance in my sons life. Only just so happens to be that my sons T is her best friend. The same thing happened when I had a compliant about a professor in school. She's a professor herself so she didn't take that well. She tells me "talk about you. I don't want to hear about someone else". The issue is that my life consists of interactions with someone else and this issue deals with that. I couldn't speak about it.

It showed me that she took sides. Instead of hearing me out she shut me up and placed boundaries as to what can be spoken and what can't be spoken. All I thought is here we go again. This is another example where my word means nothing because the person I'm telling has chosen a side before I could even speak.

If your T knows someone, who you are complaining about, that is a conflict of interest. Time to find a new T.

You sound extremely frustrated Sarmas, as you pointed out. It sounds like its evolving into anger, which might evolve further into pain or an explosion of steam or something. Not sure why that thought stuck in my mind.

Come do therapy here with us, maybe we cpuld encourage you to find a new at T

Is she the diva type? One who is entitled?

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by AzureCoast

You sound extremely frustrated Sarmas, as you pointed out. It sounds like its evolving into anger, which might evolve further into pain or an explosion of steam or something. Not sure why that thought stuck in my mind.

Come do therapy here with us, maybe we cpuld encourage you to find a new at T

Is she the diva type? One who is entitled?

Probably more entitled