[Calilady]

Some of my T's (all have been female) have done things like looked at their nails, played with their computer (when they aren't typing), or look absently around the room.

Do your T's ever look bored? How do address it? Would it bother you?

[AllHeart]

No.
I would sarcastically ask, "oh, I'm sorry. Am I boring you?"
F**k yes.

[MessyD]

No, I've never seen him bored. But he is a male so I don't think he has much interest in his nails. But really, sometimes I'm surprised how focused he is, he doesn't miss any of my body language, he never looks at his phone or a computer, only time he might look away is to occasionally write notes. It's almost scary how I can't hide anything from him, but yes, it would bother me a lot if I thought he was bored, or look absent, especially if that was happening often. Not sure if I would be able to address it, knowing myself I would probably just stopped going. But if i otherwise liked them I would maybe try to find a way to talk about it. Sometimes they don't realize how things they do can affect us

[yagr]

Originally Posted by Calilady

Do your T's ever look bored?

I have one T, though she is not my first. The others may have looked bored but they had other negative qualities that blinded me to the possibility of them being bored.

Originally Posted by Calilady

How do address it?

I wouldn't; I'd just start looking for another T. I think many people would address it though, but I don't see the point. If I am boring her, she is incapable of giving me her full attention, or is otherwise distracted - then she is incapable of doing her job. A talk might get her to pretend she is interested, but I'm not paying someone to pull one over on me.

Originally Posted by Calilady

Would it bother you?

Not really. But that doesn't mean I'd put up with it. Many people get into psychiatry to escape their own demons and have at least as many challenges as the people they are seeing. I get that...so I've been quick to shop for another.

[stopdog]

I would not pay one who played with a computer at the appointment. Other than that - I don't care if the woman is bored or not. I don't look at her all that much.

[captgut]

Originally Posted by MessyD

But really, sometimes I'm surprised how focused he is, he doesn't miss any of my body language, he never looks at his phone or a computer, only time he might look away is to occasionally write notes. It's almost scary how I can't hide anything

THIS

I saw him bored, but it was long ago. I was hurted, we discussed it but I'm still hurting sometimes

I've never experienced what seemed like a T bored with me in session, but with one of them I did have to repeatedly ask him in the beginning to engage more and make it more interactive, because that's what I like. I get very bored just talking and having someone listen, even if it is clear that they are paying attention. I think I would leave a T that showed lack of interest and engagement repeatedly, especially if they continue to do so after my telling them that I go there to interact with them.

[DodgersMom]

nope he doesn't. he always always engaged and like someone else said above, very aware of my body language and can call me out on "hiding things" lol its annoying but sometimes helpful if i am having trouble saying something

[guilloche]

I would totally bring it to their attention. They may not be bored, there may be something else going on, but the only way to know that is to ask.

(For most Ts. From what you've said about this T in other posts, I'd just look for someone else!)

My ex-T once seemed bored when I was talking to him, very early on. Without thinking, I said something like, "Oh sorry! Is this boring?"

He said, "What? No! Bored is the last thing I feel!"

Then... and this is one of my absolutely favorite memories of him... he completely rearranged his face to try to look intensely interested in what I was saying! It was so funny, it really surprised me - but I realized he was trying to convey what he was feeling, so I didn't say anything about it. But that face rearranging... I still remember the expression, and I really appreciated it!

So, in most cases (though maybe not your current T) you should ask - because you just don't know what's actually going on in their heads!

[SoConfused623]

I've been seeing a new T for the past couple of months and luckily she as well as my old blank slate T never look/looked bored! I would definitely say something if they did.

[lucozader]

No, my T has never look bored. That would certainly piss me off a lot.

[88Butterfly88]

I once had a t tell me something we were talking about was a boring topic. I kept talking anyway, as I needed to talk about this particular topic.

My therapist yawns occasionally, looks bored... Then have the audacity to say she doesn't know what to talk about! After I'm talking about my traumatic experience. I have to address this matter tomorrow. This is my sixth therapist. I could hear her laughing out loud with the previous client. With me it's like a funeral in there.

Seeing her 9 months now. She already ask me if I'm going to quit few weeks back. I told her no. This lazy woman is taking advantage of the situation. All she cares about is getting paid. I have to be assertive tomorrow. Wanted to address this in text.

My first therapist played with his phone during a guided meditation played from a CD.

I would bring it up to your T if you wanted - sometimes we have to try to be assertive.

My T never looks bored. Sometimes I ask him if I am boring & he will laugh & say, definitely not & that I keep him on his toes. If I found him looking bored, I'd say something quite sarcastic to him!

Originally Posted by 88Butterfly88

I once had a t tell me something we were talking about was a boring topic. I kept talking anyway, as I needed to talk about this particular topic.

How dare your T say that the topic you needed to talk about was boring!! I would have taken your T to task over saying that!!! Well done you for continuing to talk about what was important to you.

[88Butterfly88]

Originally Posted by JoBo

How dare your T say that the topic you needed to talk about was boring!! I would have taken your T to task over saying that!!! Well done you for continuing to talk about what was important to you.

Thanks, she's no longer my t thankfully.

[junkDNA]

yes. ive straight up asked him one time. it doesnt happen often that i think he's bored. sometimes i go in there and feel this vibe from him.. anger mainly. its mostly my paranoia and somewhat T, who admits he might be tired or stressed

That would certainly tick me off if they looked bored. I'm glad none have been so rude and ignorant in my presence.

[nottrustin]

Occasionally If I glance at T I notice she is staring off into space or looking around the room. At first I thought she was bored. I realized though she only does this when we are having a very intense/painful discussion and I avoid eye contact. I think it is her way of giving me space.