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It's a very long read although it's not as shocking as other stories I've seen(thank goodness), still it was surprising for me to notice how different my doctor may have been from what I perceived him to be. I'll just post some quotes so you won't have to scroll the whole thing and in case you want to read it, just visit my abandoned tumblr
musicqc. tumblr. com/post/164883484990/former-psychiatrist if you want to read it all. I can't post links here in the forum yet, I have made this account some time ago but mostly I just read. I've been doing lots of readings lately trying to understand what's transference and countertransference. Quote:
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I've enjoyed all of Yalom's books. I don't remember this particular one, but I'm guessing it's the one with the client who makes up all her history--one among many other accounts. I don't think he was accusing you of lying. It seems very unlikely he was accusing you of going through some long elaborate ruse to no purpose. I certainly didn't think Yalom was making jokes about people in dire situations. And I happen to believe there's at least something humorous about pretty much all of the things we get ourselves into, but of course you're not obliged to agree with that.
You don't say he berated you for not reading the book at the time. Can't it just have been he was recommending a book he enjoyed and thought you might like it too, as a psychotherapist patient?I don't see counter transference issues. Anyway it sounds like he's long gone and you have found a new therapist you like. I don't think brooding about it is useful. |
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]I've enjoyed all of Yalom's books. I don't remember this particular one, but I'm guessing it's the one with the client who makes up all her history--one among many other accounts. I don't I don't remember this particular one, but I'm guessing it's the one with the client who makes up all her history--one among many other accounts. I don't think he was accusing you of lying. It seems very unlikely he was accusing you of going through some long elaborate ruse to no purpose. I certainly didn't think Yalom was making jokes about people in dire situations. And I happen to believe there's at least something humorous about pretty much all of the things we get ourselves into, but of course you're not obliged to agree with that.
You don't say he berated you for not reading the book at the time. Can't it just have been he was recommending a book he enjoyed and thought you might like it too, as a psychotherapist patient?I don't see counter transference issues. Anyway it sounds like he's long gone and you have found a new therapist you like. I don't think brooding about it is useful.[/quote] |
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I do not know how he could have known that this would be triggering for you? They can't read minds, we really need to communicate when they are doing something that feels destructive. All he did was recommend a book? His biggest flaw is not being attuned to what you needed but you also have to be clear about what works for you in therapy and what does not.
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I don't really know or understand the full story here. But I have to say it sounds very unlikely to me that a T recommending a book is a covert way of them calling you a liar. I can't see any link between those two things and I think most people would not.
If the T had really wanted to say that you were a liar, don't you think he could have just said it using words? Anyway I'm really glad you found a female T who was sympathetic and helpful. |
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I just don't like that he'd suggest a book about a psychiatrist getting sexually involved with a patient as if he was saving her for I met him in full mania and displayed hypersexuality and everywhere people say to avoid triggers at all costs. If anything, the doctor should be the first one to wish not be misunderstood. There are more parallels to the characters on the book to myself that I found unsettling, like the doctor being responsible for the girl picking her life up, going back to college, "better with him", or another character that has the history of being involved w/another psychiatrist around my age at that time. And his sudden change of tone, from supportive to passive aggressive, belittling my minimal accomplishments, me having to excuse myself for starting to live my life, feeling the smallest hints of pride, trying to regain my confidence(that had been destroyed over the years). Yep, this is the book in which one client lies to take revenge at the doctor pretending to be interested, seducing him so he'd fall for her and she could sue him and ruin his life. But by the end she decides to be honest and they become friends and keep working together. Honestly I'm glad I didn't read it back then. He's not my hero anymore, and yep, I know this sort of idealization isn't good. So anyways there's something positive about it. |
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Given how you describe the way he made the reference--stressing it was funny and entertaining, that the book is a novel, and that the book makes the mental health professionals seem just as "crazy" as their clients, I think you may be over interpreting. I'd say he was neither irresponsible or having countertransference issues when he recommended the book.
You suggest he also just up and left his patients? With no records? To me that's a far more serious beef than the book. I'd focus on that if you're trying to get over him. |
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Only real reason that I still remember him is because I still take the same meds, same dose he prescribed and the book was in my home, unread for years and I just found it in the shelf this month. |
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