[healinginprogress]

How many therapists did you see before you found "the one"?

With so many personalities, styles, and ways to interact, I'm just curious how many therapists people see until they find the right one.

I saw therapists on and off for a lot of years until I found my current one. I think I probably saw 6 before I finally found the one I really click with now.

[DP_2017]

first try i lucked out, although i saw one many years ago as a teen but my parents chose her and i dont recall her, i only lasted 2 sessions

[atisketatasket]

Six, and counting. All seen for 2-9 months total, some overlapped. I don’t think the current one is “the one,” either.

No. 3 might have been “the one,” but I was only in her area temporarily.

Fwiw, I don’t think there is a “the one” in either romance or therapy.

[nottrustin]

I have seen a total of 4...

1st good T saw her on college for just a few months. She had a private practice but school decided to stop offering counseling to students. She didn't accept my insurance.

Didn't see another T until current long term (about 15 years between Ts). After about 9 or so years consulted with 3rd T about EMDR. It was awful. Saw her once. Started seeing 4th person over the summer for Emdr.

[MrsDuckL]

It took one so-so therapist and one terrible one before meeting “The One.”

T #1 I met with twice, she only wanted to do EMDR and thought talk therapy was a waste of time. (EMDR is just not for me.)

T #2 I had 5 sessions with and was finally starting to click a little with when dumped all his clients and disappeared out of town.

I’m nearly 6 months in, and currrnt T #3 is absolutely “The One.” Even given the two bad therapists, I still feel stupidedly lucky to have found such a great connection.

[ElectricManatee]

I saw a decent one (then I moved away), a great one (then I moved away), a short series of 3-4 sort of forgettable student T's in training, and then my current awesome T. There were also at least two brief meetings with T's who were not a fit in there too.

[stopdog]

I have interviewed over 30 of them. I stuck with two I did not completely despise. I would not say either are "the one" nor do I click with them in any particular way - they just annoyed me somewhat less than some of the others and were charging about what I was willing to pay and were closer to me in terms of travel time.

[Nammu]

None were the " one" I had several who were perfect for that particular time, then I evolved and moved on. Only ran into 2 I would call incompetent and those I did not see beyond one session.

[MessyD]

He is my first. Our MC choose him for me. I wouldn't even know what to look for at that time. I feel lucky, I don't have anything to compare to, and he is not perfect (he says), but after 2 years I would have hard time with anyone else.

Like Nammu, I had 3 therapists who were exactly what I needed at various stages of my life and therapy. I've run across a few I didn't mesh with, but I wouldn't call them necessarily incompetent -- just not right for me. For the three I worked with long-term and who I considered right for me, I actually found them immediately without having to try any other therapist out.

There were a few times I thought maybe I needed to be in therapy and tried out one or two for a few sessions, but they weren't for me and I decided at the time to just put therapy on hold for awhile. I wasn't in dire need for therapy at the time -- I think I just thought I "should." I discovered I really didn't need it at the time.

The times I really needed therapy I had no problem finding an excellent therapist. Strange how that worked, but I consider it divine intervention at the time.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I've had 9 Ts? Three have been awesome. I can't say it took me x Ts to find the right one. I thought ex-T was the "one"... clearly she wasn't, but I didn't know. After ex-T, I saw one T twice, but knew she wasn't the right fit. Then I found current T and I knew I wanted to work with her before I even met her. And things have been going good...not perfect, but good. And if I could only allow myself to trust her more, I might be able to say that she's "the one". I hope so. I don't want another T.

[RaineD]

I've seen four other therapists in my lifetime--two within the past year (and immediately before I started seeing my current therapist). I saw my first ever therapist 11 or 12 years ago, and the second one six or seven years ago. Never lasted more than four sessions with anyone besides current therapist.

I used to think my current therapist was "the one." Not so sure anymore. Perhaps as others have pointed out, there is no such thing.

I saw 2 prior to current t and yes, current t has definitely been "the one".

[here today]

I did my best to remember and counted 18, not dozens as I said on another thread. But that doesn't count the group therapists and miscellaneous people I've seen in intensivee outpatient programs. That would​ bring the total to well over 2 dozen.

[alpacalicious]

The therapist I'm seeing right now is the second one and I think he's "the one". And I found him very casually with an online research...I wanted to try a different type of therapy (different than CBT) and I found him, got interested and contacted him. During the first session I had good vibes and I knew he was right for me.

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

I went to sessions with three therapists, but only went back more than twice with my current one.

The first T I ever saw was when I was a teenager, and I didn't feel like she understood how to talk to me. The second one I saw for two sessions. During the first session I felt rather good and comfortable about it, but during the second one she made so many stupid mistakes that I couldn't keep seeing her.

My current T I really clicked with, but I can't say I think he's "the one", mainly since I don't think that exists. He is a good T and I feel comfortable, I think that is all I'd ask for.

[lucozader]

I've seen... seven. Only saw three of those for any substantial amount of time though.

I guess I haven't found the right one. The current one, maybe... too early to tell.

I hope so.