Do you ever just want to start a fight with your T?

Get out all the raw emotion? Push their buttons until their cool exterior starts to unravel.

I could go for some sumo wrestling in those padded suits....yeeeaaah.

[awkwardlyyours]

Been there, done that, bought that t-shirt and sold it too. Many times over. With different therapists.

I'm too exhausted to do it any more.

Besides, at some point, the satisfaction of getting in a punch or two was rudely broken by the realization that I was paying $$$$$ to not just throw the punches but then sit there and work it out.

Yeah, no.

These days I'm the paragon of politeness.

[DP_2017]

Nope, I'm way too quiet and respectful, i dont like arguing or yelling period but my T has asked me to argue with him a few times, with no luck

[RaineD]

Oh yeah, totally! I would love a good fight.

There are also days when I just want to throw a tempter tantrum--refuse to answer any of his questions, lie on the floor, and scream.

Sometimes I want to yell: "What's wrong with you?!" And "are you blind?!"

oh... yes. throw myself on floor screaming. I like it.

my therapist and i have had many fights. loud ones.

Originally Posted by Starry_Night

my therapist and i have had many fights. loud ones.

any in particular stand out?

[MessyD]

No but I think he sometimes wants to start one with me. Just to get an emotion out of me.

[Lemoncake]

Sometimes the older part of me tried to pick fights with R- focusing on stupid details, just to see if I could push him. It would never be psychical, and I'd never shout at him, but I've told him that I hated him and that even his face irritated me when he watched me cry. It never worked, he never once lost his cool with me and I know that he won't. Now almost a year later in therapy I can tell him that I feel like I want to push his buttons or distance myself from him without acting up.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by RaineD

Oh yeah, totally! I would love a good fight...

Sometimes I want to yell: "What's wrong with you?!" And "are you blind?!"

My famous line is, "You never listen to me!"

[nottrustin]

Until last week I would have said no. We were discussing my trauma and she said something that locked open the door on all the emotions I had locked away. I became so angry. I wanted to scram shut up and hit her. That is SO not like me. I tried breaking something of mine. She handed me a piece of plastic and I immediately broke itm. T was really surprised.

[missbella]

My co-therapists fought and ridiculed me several weeks in front of the therapy group after I told them they were taking me backward and I wanted to leave. Much of it was an argument over who was angry, whether this was happening at all, and whether my grievances were reality based or in my mind. Being the “authorities” they controlled the narrative and of course, answered my distress with weaponized diagnosis. I never asked for the fight. I just wanted to leave. A wrathful therapist is dangerous because you’ve already him your insecurities.

Originally Posted by estellanomore

Do you ever just want to start a fight with your T?

Get out all the raw emotion? Push their buttons until their cool exterior starts to unravel.

Not really, not without reason. I tend to be quite competitive in everyday life but prefer civil, rational arguments and debates and dislike fights. I have no issues being assertive, even aggressive, if I feel someone is being unfair with me or even with others around me. And manipulative, passive-aggressive behavior tends to trigger me a lot and in that case I can become very emotional and defensive at times. Happened with one of my Ts many times. I do not generally enjoy it though.