[Wintery]

I'm very sorry again...

I just want to know the answer...
I go see a psychologist for counseling..and I see them for around one year so far...I knew it wouldn't be forever, it's part of a program thing... but something must have changed and they won't tell me...

I feel they have rejected me for over a month for unknown reasons...they tell me they were sick and then on holiday...it was probably true but after I see them again they suddenly they don't want to see me anymore...and recommend me to go see some other place. It doesn't even seem like the other place would be that good because it's a psychology student run place to practice.
Before they talked to me about doing more things and helping me...then I go in yesterday and they tell me we have only 3 sessions. At first they tell me 3 was 'just a number', but then by the end of the appointment it's 3 sessions.

sorry. I've thought about killing myself...I think I react badly to rejection because it's always like that for me. I don't understand why it is so sudden. I would've appreciated maybe a month in advance or something. Instead it feels like they ignored me for a month, and then tell me we have only a few more sessions. I don't know if it's something wrong with me...I have not been feeling well for the last month and I kept wanting to talk with them and now they don't want me anymore...

It's not you, it's them. More than likely they feel they cant give you what you need and are trying to look out for you. I know it's hard. I've been dismissed from a therapist before because they couldn't handle my issues. It is not a reflection of you, I promise.

I know some will disagree with me but I at times find those freshly out of school and resident programs to be refreshingly positive experiences. Some psychologists and doctors may have graduated years ago and not bothered to maintain their level of knowledge and skill as the areas of study change and new methods develop. On the otherhand those right out of study tend to be armed with the latest innovations and ideas. Their skills are up to date. Believe me, I would far rather see someone fairly new than someone who hasn't bothered to make themselves aware of the latest best practices.

[Travelinglady]

That does sound rather mean. You needed more warning. But, as was said, if your counseling is for support and not for "therapy," then a student-run program might be refreshing. The students will be excited and not jaded--and really want to help!

[mugwort2]

I can relate. I was seeing a psychiatrist for several months No probs. Then I get a phone call from his secretary. She says I can't see him anymore. No explanation at all. I felt so dejected, rejected. It felt so cold to me. I don't blame you for your negative feelings. Been there.

[Loose Screw x 2]

Originally Posted by Wintery

I'm very sorry again...

I just want to know the answer...
I go see a psychologist for counseling..and I see them for around one year so far...I knew it wouldn't be forever, it's part of a program thing... but something must have changed and they won't tell me...

I feel they have rejected me for over a month for unknown reasons...they tell me they were sick and then on holiday...it was probably true but after I see them again they suddenly they don't want to see me anymore...and recommend me to go see some other place. It doesn't even seem like the other place would be that good because it's a psychology student run place to practice.
Before they talked to me about doing more things and helping me...then I go in yesterday and they tell me we have only 3 sessions. At first they tell me 3 was 'just a number', but then by the end of the appointment it's 3 sessions.

sorry. I've thought about killing myself...I think I react badly to rejection because it's always like that for me. I don't understand why it is so sudden. I would've appreciated maybe a month in advance or something. Instead it feels like they ignored me for a month, and then tell me we have only a few more sessions. I don't know if it's something wrong with me...I have not been feeling well for the last month and I kept wanting to talk with them and now they don't want me anymore...

I'm not going to tell you to suck it up and move on or anything like that but, I will tell you to try the student run place if it's your only other option. But, don't hurt yourself. I have trouble with rejection too, so much so that I have been alone for a very long time. I know it hurts but, taking your life isn't the answer. That's the same thing as giving up and you've come too far to give up. You owe it to yourself to trudge on. I'm at a very low point right now too but, I'm still sitting here and typing. I'm still busying myself with something productive. You can do that too. Don't give up hope. There IS hope in your future. Rise up and claim it. It's yours for the taking. You can do this and these feelings of rejection are beneath you. Conquer them. You have what it takes to make it happen. Just tap into it. Just relax, calm down and tap it.
I believe in you.

[ECHOES]

I think you would prefer to have something more. More than a program thing. More of a committed relationship. Is there a way you can do that?

[AllHeart]

I’m so sorry this is happening. Sounds harsh. Did they explain to you why they are terminating therapy with you? If not, I would insist on getting answers to that immediately. You are entitled to know and should know for your own benefit. Also, ask for other referrals if you are not interested in the student practice. Your psychologist has some responsibility to help you line up adequate support, if you want it.

[Wonderfalls]

If it's part of a program thing, as you say, is it possible the number of sessions was mandated by the program? Of course they should have told you earlier and why. A new therapist will give you a new perspective and just having two different ways to look at your problems should be helpful to you. Definitely give it a try before you reject it out of hand.

[Wintery]

thank you for replies...I guess I'll just give a little update...

So I asked this week about it...because it was bothering me a lot...
I feel better now that I know the reasons...

they told me it wasn't because of me... but they had to leave because they are changing jobs and are no longer part of the program...and then also they apologized because they told me when I was having a bad week and didn't say why, and agreed that it was very sudden, and they knew for a while but just kept putting it off...they said they should have done it better and not when I was already stressed over other things...

they also said the number of appointments left is not finalized to a few, but they were just putting a number out there so we can have some goals to finish before the last appointment...

anyways...thank you for the support...I also contacted the student place and I guess it will be okay for me too... thank you again...