I have a session tomorrow and since I cant just go in and rip off his head and put it on a stick... do you have any other suggestions?

How do you handle this yourself?

[stopdog]

I used to go in and tell the woman in a very calm fashion that I wanted to rip her head off and put it on a stick. Or rip her guts out and stomp on her head.
It really never bothered the woman as far as I could tell.

love it. thankyou

[DP_2017]

This post made me laugh.

Anyway, I feel the same after what happened to me Fri... but knowing me...I'll be a quiet pansy and just sit there and let him ramble on

[RaineD]

Do you want to yell at him? I've never actually yelled at mine before. The most I've done is raise my voice and talk really fast. But I've wanted to yell.

Maybe you could ask if you can yell at him. And if he says yes, then just yell.

[kecanoe]

I start by saying that I am mad and why I am mad. I don't yell-I rarely yell. I try to be clear about what I am mad about. T1 always sits there calmly and asks questions. He's really good at staying calm when I am upset with him. He actually reacts less when I am angry than when I am hurt. When I tell him he hurt me he looks sad.

[Argonautomobile]

Beavers has a gift for diffusing anger. He should be a hostage negotiator. So, it's hard for me to want to rip his head off for long.

How does your t handle anger?

He probably handles anger well.... he has a poker face and is good at concealing what is really going on. The thing is I want him to bite back. I want a real encounter... I want my buttons pushed enough for me to really be able to get it out.

I see him through the public health system where he has a small office among many other offices. So if I yell, it wont go unnoticed by everyone else... I want to yell... make him react.... watch him squirm...

The worse thing is the office is small and he just sits and stares and that makes it worse. I end up turning around and make him talk to my back.

I could ask for a conference room but the building is a ****en maze. I dont want to storm out then get lost. Though I find that kinda funny.

He talks about a thread that connects us which is bs.

He said hes very visual so I am working on some visual aids to help me express myself. I would like to express my anger creatively.

[starfishing]

Generally if I already know that I'm coming in full of rage, rather than being caught by surprise by something enraging, I'm able to just say I want to yell/punch the wall/whatever rather than actually doing any of those things. I've raised my voice somewhat in the past (though I'd say it fell short of yelling) when a therapist said or did something infuriating during the session that hit when I had my guard down.

Originally Posted by Coming up tails

I have a session tomorrow and since I cant just go in and rip off his head and put it on a stick... do you have any other suggestions?

How do you handle this yourself?

Once I've actually get in the room. It moves the rage from inside my head. Changes it so I can verbalise it.

When he came out to get me for our session, he was wearing the shirt I told him I liked LOL

i like it when a T is smart enough to dress for battle

[RaineD]

How did it go? Did you calmly tell him you want to put his head on a stick?

Yes, I did tell him

Going into session was like going into miserable weather....But after over an hour of it.... the sun burst through brighter than ever before. Neither of us thought the sun was going to shine.

[precaryous]

I feel it would be SO cathartic for me to go to session and just rage....