Does your therapist tease you?

This question was mentioned on another thread. Does your therapist tease you, and how do you feel about that?

I think they’ve all teased me except DBC and CW (neither of whom had much of a sense of humor).

I don’t mind. People generally tease me, not maliciously.

Yea he does. It usually doesn't bother me. We have a teasing type of relationship I guess...where we are both comfortable with each other enough to do it and not get feelings hurt

The woman mocked me, tried to claim it was teasing "I have assumed that you and I had reached a point where we could joke back and forth. I guess I was wrong. I am not the enemy", did it badly, and I forbade it.
I do not play with therapists - I play with people I like. The woman did not get to share in that part of me. She did not earn it.

Like how? Can I get some examples?

Non-therapeutic example from my real life: “I don’t know if I can trust you. After all, you’re a Red Sox fan.”

Yup. Frequently. I give it right back though. It's how I operate.

Thanks for the poll. I answered no, and I'm glad, but really it's more just no.

I don't know how I would respond, to be honest. It's probably risky for me anyway, since it could be taken so many ways in that setting. In general life, though, I get teased a lot. Most is okay. Some is mean spirited.

I'm trying to think what would be a fun kind of teasing in therapy that would be okay for me, but I can't think of any. I have teased about myself though, and that's okay.

He's pretty careful about it, and probably for good reason. I can handle some self-deprecating humor, but am pretty sensitive in a lot of areas, particularly with men I don't know well. He teased me once about how he thought maybe I watched Fox News instead of CNN. That was fine because it wasn't personal at all. He's kind of smiled at me worrying about him "firing me." And that got a little closer to maybe hurting my feelings, because even though logically I know the fear is a little silly, I don't want him to take it lightly.

I said yes, and I tease back. It's always the good-natured kind. She's got a good sense of humor.

She has a few times and yes I have teased back. But it is not a regular and we are careful to make sure the other person knows it is just in fun.

My T doesn't tease me, and I prefer it that way. I take things pretty literally, and often personally, so I wouldn't like being teased. We do joke around and laugh a lot.

Very, very occasionally. I enjoy it.

Yes, t fun teases me a little here and there. I enjoy it. I actually probably opened that door with fun teasing her first.

I said, "Yes, and I like it" regarding my T. If answering for MC, I would have said, "Yes, and I tease back." I feel I haven't known T quite long enough to tease back.

Examples: Today, from T: I was wearing distressed jeans with a couple intentional holes in them. I sat down and he said, "Are things bad enough that you have holes in your jeans?"

From marriage counselor. I'd expressed worry via e-mail about his health at one point when he'd had to leave a session right on time (but not for another client) and had been drinking pink grapefruit juice, when he normally has coffee or soda. He'd reassured me over e-mail that he knew of no health issues. At the next session, he held up a bottle of pink grapefruit juice that he was drinking. He said, "I really didn't intentionally buy this because you had session. It's quite good--have you ever had it?" I said no, and didn't really want to try it. He said he didn't mean then. Then said, "You know why I'm messing with you? One, because it's fun! And, second, to let you know it's OK you asked about that."

I can come up with more examples if you want...

we both tease each other

No, i like teasing generally (and I come from a culture that teases a lot, and doesn’t take it seriously) but my therapist and I are weirdly sincere with each other.

Yep we tease each other all the time

In some cases, teasing can be a form of flirting.... I'm surprised to see so many people do this casually on here.... I thought I was in a small group.

Very very very rarely. And, also gets very serious when I tease her.

Weird because she’s actually got a pretty solid sense of humor — so, I think there’s some strange reluctance to deal with teasing.

It’s odd because that’s how I usually connect with folks — tease and be teased.

Perhaps a better example from MC:
I was there for an appointment with ex-T and was at the receptionist's desk when MC walks up. He says to their longtime receptionist (sadly not there anymore) that he got buzzed but isn't expecting a client. She says she buzzed him by accident. He notices me standing there and says, "It's LT's fault." Receptionist says it was hers, and MC says, "No, it's LT's fault--it's always LT's fault. You have to say it, 'It's always LT's fault.'" The receptionist begrudgingly goes along with him and says it.

I tease my T but she doesn't tease me. At least not enough that I can think of any examples off the top of my head. She may have at some point. I think it's probably a good thing she doesn't tease me, as I'm still learning my limits. But then, maybe it would be helpful?

Yes, literally all of the time. We are both incredibly sarcastic people so it works.

She doesn't tease me, probably because she doesn't like me and/or because she thinks I'm too sensitive. (I'm pretty stiff and overly serious in therapy)

A friend also seeing T casually talks about T teasing her...

Nope. When I was in therapy, I was always serious.
Therapy is simply not the place for me to joke or have fun. I remember my ex therapist teased me a couple of times and I just stared at her blankly/confused.
I like being teased/teasing with my girlfriend or my friends (ie people I actually know and love), it would simply be odd with a therapist since I don’t consider it to be a real relationship.

I can't think of an instance, I can't imagine him doing it. I teased him a bit just last session but I don't think he teases me.

I had to think quite hard about this but I'm pretty sure the answer is no. The atmosphere is definitely playful between us sometimes but I don't think our relationship has reached a place yet where he'd feel it was okay to tease me - especially given the residual hurt I have from some of the things that T(wat) used to say to me.

I don't think I would mind it. I don't think it could ever seem cruel coming from him, I guess I'd enjoy some affectionate teasing.