My Therapist Talks About Me w/ Her Therapist

justbreathe1994 · Mar 28, 2018 at 12:18 AM

Well, she actually told me that she talks about patterns she gets in with me to her therapist. Idk why I latched onto this, but ever since she told me, my thoughts have been going wild about what she exactly she talks about. I know I’m probably way overthinking it and she probably doesn’t even talk about me, but just the behaviors. It’s still so interesting to imagine though!! It kind of feels like an honor in a weird way lol. Does anybody else have a T who has shared with them that they talk to their therapist about them?

Amyjay · Mar 28, 2018 at 01:02 AM

My ex T told me she discussed me with her supervisor but that's different to her own therapy I think. I would love to be a fly on the wall!

feileacan · Mar 28, 2018 at 04:27 AM

My T has discussed my "case" in several supervision groups although he is a very seasoned therapist and analysts with 25 years of experience. I was very curious what he told about me but he said that when discussing my case, the focus is not on what I say or do but rather on his emotions and what treating me stirs up for him and the supervision group helps him to understand and deal with his own emotions.

junkDNA · Mar 28, 2018 at 06:39 AM

Yes my t has shared with me that he has talked to his therapist about me and some of the things I went through

He also took me to see her once when they wanted to kick me out of the treatment program

Thalassophile · Mar 28, 2018 at 08:42 AM

I have no idea if my T talks about my case to her T. Not sure he even currently sees another T although I know he has in the past. I would like if he did though. It's best I don't know as I would spend a lot of time wondering what he talked about.

lucozader · Mar 28, 2018 at 09:36 AM

I was actually just wondering about this recently. I know my T has his own therapy. I doubt he would talk about me to his therapist, he has supervision for that and probably enough of his own stuff going on... But part of me definitely likes the idea of making enough of an impact on him that he would... Hmmm.

Having said that, I think it is a bit odd that your T shared that with you, and I don't think I would like my T to actually do that.

fille_folle · Mar 28, 2018 at 09:50 AM

I have no idea if my therapist is even in therapy - that goes for my current and previous T. Previous T did consult with a couple specialists about me, because she didn't have experience working with one of my diagnoses. Current T offered to do the same (I told her I didn't expect this, though). But consulting is different from therapy. I'm not sure how I'd feel if my T told me what yours did. I'd want to know what patterns she was talking about, too.

InnerPeace111 · Mar 28, 2018 at 10:10 AM

My T has never said she talked about me with her supervisor or her own therapist. I can’t even imagine she’d ever tell me if she ever did such a thing. I don’t even know if she is personally in supervision or therapy. I would not like to know that I am a person for which she feels the need to discuss in supervision. I guess I just like to keep a low profile.

LonesomeTonight · Mar 28, 2018 at 10:34 AM

I'm 99% sure my T doesn't see his own therapist, based on a question I asked him once about whether he'd been in therapy, and he said "Uh, yes, as part of my training...wondering if I know what it's like to be on the other side?" But he has mentioned being part of a group of therapists who consult with each other. I have no idea if he's talked about me in there--but I've had a few reactions and things that have surprised him (in the sense of "You're the first client who has reacted that way" or "You think more about the therapeutic relationship than any of my other clients"), so I'm curious as to whether he would have brought it up with them. Especially since he seems to have done better handling certain things lately. But maybe he's just learning from his missteps? (I do tell him!)

nottrustin · Mar 28, 2018 at 11:38 AM

Long term T has seen a T of her own in the distant past she also does not have supervision. She has been practicing for 30 years. EMDR T hasn't said anything about her seeing a R herself. She does participate in group supervision. She has discussed my situation a couple of times. She believes in being transparent about anytime she discussed a case so she has told me what she brought up and the recommendations. Since Long term T also came up in those discussions, EMDR told me what was said and asked to also reach out to T. After their conversation both Long term T and EMDR T told me about the conversation.

Elio · Mar 28, 2018 at 01:24 PM

My T has sought supervision on my case at different times. I know early on she used several resources to help with my gender and sexuality topics that would be specifically about me. She asked my permission at different times around this.

I also know that she is starting to take advance training in psychoanalytical methods; most of those programs required the T to be psychoanalyzed as part of their training. I suspect she talks about the feelings that comes for her in one of several venues.

Mike_J · Mar 28, 2018 at 03:12 PM

I would feel great that my therapist thought I was important enough to need/want to talk to her therapist about me.

MobiusPsyche · Mar 28, 2018 at 08:24 PM

My T has talked to her peers about me and she told me about that but I think it'd be inappropriate for her to tell me that she talked about me in her own therapy. That would make me uncomfortable,like I was too much for her and she was having trouble dealing with me and she needed to talk to her own T about me.

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Amyjay Magnate Member Since Mar 2017 Location: Underground Posts: 2,439 7 692 hugs given	Mar 28, 2018 at 01:02 AM #2 My ex T told me she discussed me with her supervisor but that's different to her own therapy I think. I would love to be a fly on the wall!
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junkDNA Comfy Sedation Member Since Sep 2012 Location: the woods Posts: 19,305 (SuperPoster!) 12 8,152 hugs given	Mar 28, 2018 at 06:39 AM #4 Yes my t has shared with me that he has talked to his therapist about me and some of the things I went through He also took me to see her once when they wanted to kick me out of the treatment program __________________
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Thalassophile Member Member Since Nov 2017 Location: Chicago Posts: 183 6	Mar 28, 2018 at 08:42 AM #5 I have no idea if my T talks about my case to her T. Not sure he even currently sees another T although I know he has in the past. I would like if he did though. It's best I don't know as I would spend a lot of time wondering what he talked about.
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Mike_J Infamous Vampire Duck Community Liaison Member Since Dec 2009 Location: Mid West Posts: 12,742 (SuperPoster!) 14 961 hugs given	Mar 28, 2018 at 03:12 PM #12 I would feel great that my therapist thought I was important enough to need/want to talk to her therapist about me. __________________ “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. ... We need not wait to see what others do.” Gandhi
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