[nottrustin]

For those who see 2 therapists do you discuss totally different subjects with them? Do you avoid subjects with one because that is what you are seeing the other for that?

[maybeblue]

Kind of. I avoid talking about food with my long term therapist because when I have she annoys me. I avoid talking about sex stuff with my eating disorder therapist because I think it makes him uncomfortable (although he says it doesn't). I try to avoid swearing with the ED therapist too, but I'm not always successful.

I talk about relationships, self-esteem and trauma with both of them because those seem to be central to everything. It's kind of interesting to see how they each respond when I talk about the same thing to both of them. One thing I never do is play them against each other. I never say "so and so says." If I get pissed at one of them I try to address it directly with the one I'm annoyed at. Neither of them has asked me not to do that. It's just my own personal rule because one of my main goals is to get better at being assertive and direct.

[stopdog]

Sometimes. They were useful (or not useful) in different ways when I did tell them the same thing. The woman was better at sitting there while I talked about my person and dealing with her and the mds and the horrors of the western medical torturers.
The second one was better at acting like she understood what I was talking about in other areas and is much better read and understood references to literature, plays, music and art.

[nottrustin]

Thank you both for your input. I am finding it can get difficult. The 2 areas I see EMDR T for are trauma and abandonment issues as they are so interconnected. I have only see her biweekly for 9 months. I have seen long term T for ten years and we have always discussed everything. I went to Emdr because we were stuck in those areas. At one point T1 said she and I should not discuss the topics I am seeing EMDR T for. It is hard as those two topics are a part of so much off my day to day life. T seems to be okay with us with us discussing those things. But it seems hard so.etimes as I don't want it to seem like I am splitting with the 2. They both are very helpful in different ways.

I do on occasion bring up my struggles with EMDR to T. Not about anything T is doing wrong but it being too much and wanting to quit. She encourages me to talk to Emdr T.

The other issue is that because of only seeing EMDR T biweekly on the off weeks some stuff is dealt with by T whereas if I saw EMDR T weekly I could talk with her. As T says she is there to help me pick up the pieces.

[stopdog]

A difference is that the two therapists only knew about each other in theory and I never told them what I did or was going to talk to the other one about. If I wanted to talk to them about the same thing, I did so. For me, it was not difficult to do and since I never talked to one therapist about the other therapist, it was all about what was on my mind - not what had gone on at an appointment with a different therapist.

[maybeblue]

Sometimes I forget what I told which one to be honest. But I figure it doesn't matter too much. It seems like dealing with trauma often involves talking about the same thing over and over anyway...at least that's what's been helpful to me. Plus I figure if I didn't tell one of them something that I thought I did they will just think they are the one who forgot.