Substitute T

Tbhimscared · May 07, 2018 at 08:54 PM

Have you ever seen a different T for a session while your reg T was away/unable to see you? How did it go?

I may go see a diff T while my t is on vacation. It would only be for one session but I’m afraid to see someone else. Normally I would wait until she’s back but I’m feeling lower than usual so we thought it might be a good idea to see someone else while she is gone.

DP_2017 · May 07, 2018 at 08:57 PM

Nope and I wouldn't. He has suggested it but I refused.

If it's something you are open to, then great. Hopefully it's a helpful session for you and you can always try the crisis line too if the one session isn't enough, good luck

ElectricManatee · May 07, 2018 at 08:59 PM

I just did it last week, and I'm glad I did. I sometimes have a hard time when my T is gone, and it's especially bad if I'm already stressed or upset. It wasn't the same as seeing my usual T, of course, but it was nice to have that time and space to talk about what was on my mind. The backup T was really nice and a good listener. It helped that my T picked her out for me, so that endorsement made her seem trustworthy. Plus I felt free to say whatever I wanted since I knew I might not see her again anyway.

stopdog · May 07, 2018 at 09:00 PM

Do you know what part scares you? I would go interview new ones every so often. I sort of liked seeing the different ones for just one appointment. I would not have ever used one that the woman suggested, but that is more based on the fact I would not trust them not to talk.

LonesomeTonight · May 07, 2018 at 09:02 PM

I have not. My T offered to give me another T to contact when he was away for a week a few months ago, since I was struggling some at the time. He said the person he usually suggested was on maternity leave, and he didn't even know if this other person could see me if it was a last-minute thing. I declined because, at the time, we were still seeing my former marriage counselor, so I figured I could contact him if I needed anything. But if T goes away this summer, I may consider taking him up on the offer of a backup, depending on how I'm doing. I can understand the apprehension though.

Tbhimscared · May 07, 2018 at 09:30 PM

My T didn’t recommend anyone but I can call her office and make an appointment so I may do that. It could be good to try it out with someone new so I know that it’s an option in the future

May 08, 2018 at 03:15 AM

My T has never offered and I'm not sure it would go well for me. I have some major trust issues.... I'm pretty sure it would be a disaster for me. Lol

Lemoncake · May 08, 2018 at 03:35 AM

I saw a new psychiatrist the first time he went away for a week last year. He was nice and I feel like it was good to have a different take. If you need the extra help I would go for it.

downandlonely · May 08, 2018 at 03:50 AM

I haven't done this, but I'm not really that close to my therapist, so it wouldn't be a big deal.

Glittering · May 08, 2018 at 06:42 AM

I did this recently. I was just in such a bad place over my T going away that I genuinely felt like I wouldn't survive (obviously I did!) and I just needed something in place, someone in place. She chose someone and let him know I would call, and it felt like a connection to her even though it wasn't her. Of course it wasn't like seeing her, and it was quite an odd experience for me, and I ended up dissociating quite badly during the session...but I think I would've been worse without it. It's probably worth a try if you feel like you really need the support at the moment.

skysblue · May 08, 2018 at 04:12 PM

Now I wouldn't for just one session. I might have in the past when I was less stable. My regular T is out for a few months for medical reasons so I AM seeing a substitute T now. It's been very helpful. She uses a different method than regular T and it's nice being exposed to her modality. So, I like both T's and am eager for my regular T to return. But I suspect I'll miss substitute T when that happens.

Sarabethlynn · May 08, 2018 at 08:15 PM

Whether it's helpful for me depends on why I would do it or what I hoped to get out of it. Maybe think about what you need and then if seeing someone once at this moment has the possibility of being useful. For me if I'm not in too much distress and fairly grounded in general I like getting new perspectives. One it stirred up difficult attachment feelings. So its been helpful and unhelpful depending on where Im at. What did you decided?

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DP_2017 Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2017 Location: A house Posts: 4,414 6 665 hugs given	May 07, 2018 at 08:57 PM #2 Nope and I wouldn't. He has suggested it but I refused. If it's something you are open to, then great. Hopefully it's a helpful session for you and you can always try the crisis line too if the one session isn't enough, good luck
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Tbhimscared Member Member Since Mar 2017 Location: USA Posts: 273 7 60 hugs given	May 07, 2018 at 09:30 PM #6 My T didn’t recommend anyone but I can call her office and make an appointment so I may do that. It could be good to try it out with someone new so I know that it’s an option in the future
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Anonymous54545 Guest Posts: n/a	May 08, 2018 at 03:15 AM #7 My T has never offered and I'm not sure it would go well for me. I have some major trust issues.... I'm pretty sure it would be a disaster for me. Lol
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Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,730 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	May 08, 2018 at 03:35 AM #8 I saw a new psychiatrist the first time he went away for a week last year. He was nice and I feel like it was good to have a different take. If you need the extra help I would go for it.
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downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	May 08, 2018 at 03:50 AM #9 I haven't done this, but I'm not really that close to my therapist, so it wouldn't be a big deal.
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