[rainbow8]

She was frustrated and said she didn't know how to help me. I said "you could hold my hand but you probably won't." She got right up and came over and sat next to me and took my hand. Then she had me breathe slowly in and out while holding her hand, with my eyes closed. We did that until the end of the session, for about 10 minutes. I felt calm, and she told me I could breathe like that anytime I feel shaky and anxious.

She asked if I remember TIP from DBT. Actually, that wasn't in my book. It's T for temperature. If I feel bad, change my temperature with ice or water. I is for intensity, I think. Walk around the block, exercise or something like that. P is oops, I forgot! But T said to add Positive for me. Say I think I can like "little engine that could." The children's book.

It's bittersweet because that "in love with T" part isn't there. Well, maybe when she wears her hair the way I like it but not today. It was just calming and nice to hold her hand. It always was nice. In general, I mean I don't have the feelings for her like I used to. But I wish I had the tranference feelings for her instead of this medical stuff! Radical acceptance for what my life is right now, I guess.
We walked out together too.

[justbreathe1994]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

She was frustrated and said she didn't know how to help me. I said "you could hold my hand but you probably won't." She got right up and came over and sat next to me and took my hand. Then she had me breathe slowly in and out while holding her hand, with my eyes closed. We did that until the end of the session, for about 10 minutes. I felt calm, and she told me I could breathe like that anytime I feel shaky and anxious.

She asked if I remember TIP from DBT. Actually, that wasn't in my book. It's T for temperature. If I feel bad, change my temperature with ice or water. I is for intensity, I think. Walk around the block, exercise or something like that. P is oops, I forgot! But T said to add Positive for me. Say I think I can like "little engine that could." The children's book.

It's bittersweet because that "in love with T" part isn't there. Well, maybe when she wears her hair the way I like it but not today. It was just calming and nice to hold her hand. It always was nice. In general, I mean I don't have the feelings for her like I used to. But I wish I had the tranference feelings for her instead of this medical stuff! Radical acceptance for what my life is right now, I guess.
We walked out together too.

That sounds lovely, Rainbow. T and held hands once too and it felt very warm and comforting.

[fille_folle]

Hmm, I find I am quite jealous. Glad that your T rose to the challenge, and didn't deny you, though!

[CANDC]

Sounds like your T is warm and caring and very professional.

the transference stuff is what drives people to say things to their T that force them to terminate the relationship for professional boundaries. You are so lucky you are by that. If you were to go there you would see walls flying up and no hand holding so do not try to fall in love with your T because you pay them big bucks to get better. That is a more worthy goal than falling in love with your T.

You are very lucky in many ways.

[Travelinglady]

I'm glad to hear she was sensitive to what you truly needed at the time.

[Deejay14]

Rainbow8, Sounds like you have a great therapist.

[HowDoYouFeelMeow?]

My "P" is paced breathing! :-)