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So I am a CSA survivor or whatever you want to call it, personally o don’t like the words survivor or victims they are disempowering.
This week I text my t because I bumped into the perpetrator. He hugged me, I felt so sick that I had a panic attack. T asked if I would like to work on this this week in session but now I am afraid to. I am afraid of having a panic attack, of not being able to stand my ground when t wants me to report it. I am afraid of going back to that awful place of not being able to control my emotions. Does anyone have any advice? |
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True happiness comes not when we get rid of all our problems, but when we change our relationship to them, when we see our problems as a potential source of awakening, opportunities to practice patience and learn.~Richard Carlson |
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I'm sorry this happened to you. I think it's very important that you be in control of this entire situation--talking with your therapist, making any decisions about reporting anything, etc. You should be in control and only do any of these things because *you* want to. You do not want to replicate the dynamics of abuse, in which one person is forced or pressured into doing something they do not want to do.
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My T is adamant that when you still see the P, that the trauma is still happening, and treatment can't proceed like it would for a passed event. I am so so so sorry this happened to you, as that hug had chain links to every other situation involving P to some parts of your brain. Hopefully your T will work on grounding you, and leave what you should do about it for a later time?
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Thank you, I have no interest in reporting but I know my strongly advises it. To me reporting is not the most important thing, if I had my way I would really hurt him so he would never be able to abuse anyone again! Quote:
This makes perfect sense. No wonder the hug had such an impact. It was like my body just froze but my brain was saying runnnn! It was so weird. I am going to ask t what to do the next time, I know she will say well if you report him he won’t be able to do it again. I have never been so terrified and I couldn’t really understand what was happening |
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Am I right in thinking that you are involved with Gestalt therapy? It feels like this is a situation which sits perfectly with empty chair, as well as unfinished business.
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No I am not involved in Gestalt therapy. You must know a lot about that? |
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Sorry, I must have confused you with another poster. I doubt I know as much as you, but your therapist sounds as clumsy and as bossy as mine.
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She can be very bossy and directive but sometimes it’s helpful when I am flustered and ungrounded. I don’t really know anything about Gestalt only It’s German !! Do you find your therapist being bossy and clumsy helpful or more of a hindrance? |
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This makes perfect sense. No wonder the hug had such an impact. It was like my body just froze but my brain was saying runnnn! It was so weird. I am going to ask t what to do the next time, I know she will say well if you report him he won’t be able to do it again. I have never been so terrified and I couldn’t really understand what was happening[/QUOTE] That is your decision, and it is important that the power be yours and not T's agenda for you. My T taught me so much about how abuse affects our brains- there's no linear time in many parts of the brain, especially if fight, flight, freeze or appease activates. It is like a never-ending story in that mode. Therapy can put the pieces together in order, and integrate things, but it takes a long, slow gentle time
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