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Hi PC,
I've heard a lot of good and also bad stories about EMDR, here and elsewhere. I've wanted to do EMDR with my therapist as she's trained in it, but we primarily use imagery rescripting for trauma processing. Last session, I asked her why she has never offered to do EMDR with me as we've great rapport, I trust her, I'm stable etc. Paraphrasing what she said:
I did ask if it's because my traumas are "not bad enough" for EMDR, she said it's not about "the trauma has to be X bad to qualify for EMDR" and I know people have used EMDR for painful memories which aren't necessarily the overwhelming, "obviously traumatic" ones. Thoughts? I don't have a dissociative disorder diagnosis that I know of (and I know there are members here with dissociative disorders whose therapists are willing to do EMDR)...I don't even have a PTSD diagnosis... Last edited by Anonymous45127; Jul 27, 2018 at 09:27 AM. |
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Doesn't sound to me like it's necessarily a matter that her skills and experience are questionable -- based on ideas that I thought would "work" for me and didn't, I hold some doubt about the efficacy of EMDR in all cases and, again, would respect her caution about the method, given you and your situation. Sounds like she's well-trained and up-to-speed in the research. Good that she is open to discussion and your disagreement about it, though. If it were me, and I wanted to try it, then I would try to find another T who does not have those reservations. Someone who feels more confident, whether it's their greater level of experience with the method or whatever. But. . .based on my experience, I never expected to fall apart (didn't do EMDR, just tried to get in touch with trauma) and for it to be so bad and so long. . .it might be worthwhile to look at the downside and risk, too, as well as the reported benefits. |
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QM, I think the environment we shared, and frankly i would say yours was worse because you are still in "the old country"?, definitely qualifies as c-PTSD - which is chronic ptsd. The unrelenting diminishing based on gender for one thing, the looksism, the general constant undermining of capabilities - this is just the BACKGROUND.
My wish for you would simply be to see you change your "i can'ts" to "i cans" - like live independently. EMDR would be exploring your i cants - put your energy into finding a roommate - even if you never move in with them, you would learn and build something that would serve you for the future. Find an apartment complex for women - i cant believe that NONE exists. We are not as unique as we think we are. |
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C did some EMDR, and it felt a bit silly. I particularly agree with #3, I think. C just has too many incidents to reasonably cover with EMDR. I'm curious why you want to do EMDR? Is what you're doing not working?
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EMDR can definitely help with C-PTSD but you have to have a qualified T. It must be done carefully, with a highly trained and skilled T. You work on one of your worst memories to start with. The "process" of EMDR will bring up many more memories for you, even things you never remembered before. It is more than just noticing and watching fingers go back and forth. Personally I find it easier with the hand buzzers than eye movements but I have heard it all works the same. The back and forth movements work similar to a dream in ways that it helps your brain file away the visual, physical, and emotional memories and feelings in a way that your brain can process them and they no longer cause pain. For me, it is a slow process because I tend to dissociate a lot (another issue that requires special T training) but I have seen some improvements.
I don't believe EMDR would not help you, but it is quite possible that your T does not have the skills to use it on you. If that is the case, they are probably right and I wouldn't want to start it with them. My T told me about a couple of cases he had early on in his practice that failed because he did not have the proper knowledge to treat the issue at the time. He continuously goes to consultation for EMDR issues and has even learned quite a bit with me. Not that he hasn't helped me, just that it has been very slow going due to my DID issues. Good luck with whatever you decide. |
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I have C-ptsd and I used to dissociate all the time in session. EMDR has been a game changer for me. I am now at my best functioning adult that I have ever thought I could be.
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My T and I have just started incorporating some EMDR into my therapy. T did say that it is similar to the imagery re-scripting which is part of schema therapy. I don't actually experience it as being similar at all, but I suppose T means that it is targeting the same part of the mind (he has explained before about targeting the amygdala).
I think though QM that if I was in your position and my T wasn't confident that EMDR would be a good use, then I probably wouldn't push too much to go ahead. I'm not at all thinking about who is right or wrong - and maybe your T is mistaken and it actually could be very helpful to you - but just that I feel it is less likely to be a good and helpful experience if the T is not feeling confident and committed. I seem to remember there have been other posters who have one at for EMDR and one for other therapy. I don't know if that's something you would want to try, QM? |
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I've found EMDR to be a game changer for CPTSD. We can have so many " incidents " but they have " themes " that repeat. I'd just finished my second round of EMDR but then something came up that we'd notdone too much work on so I'm going back for that. Maybe your T isn't that confidant she can use it , it's a very specialised thing to do. Could you talk to another practioner if you feel it might benefit you ?
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I have DID and C-PTSD and my T uses some EMDR techniques with me. I find them really helpful, it certainly speeds up processing for me.
I have read several times however that one of the "prerequisites" of successful EMDR is that the client needs to be able to visualize. I don't know why, I didn't catch that bit, but have read several times that if a client can't visualize EMDR isn't a viable option. |
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You're right: there ARE options which weren't open for me at first, but became open after I changed some BIG stuff (family's mad about those changes but too bad for them). To everyone else, I appreciate all the replies! ![]() Part of my wanting is to be more intentional with "trauma processing" as we do imagery rescripting pretty rarely. I think the rarity is maybe because visualising itself is so hard for me already. :/ I can't even visualise my "child part" consistently or clearly. They shift faces, genders, feel "not me". So I can see where T is coming from yet I'm quite "sick and tired of having reminders of trauma disturb me", if I make sense? I really want to start changing the beliefs related to trauma. I want to "hurry up and get done" with therapy. I know my past isn't the only thing that defines me and I try to be as present-focused and future-orientated as I can, so I have this huge impatience of "let's do EMDR / PET / imagery rescripting so we can heal the traumas. Let's do it now now now!" ETA: Quote:
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I want this. I'm at my best functioning adult self now (more than what I thought I could be in the past), but I still have a limited life with impairments due to anxiety, so I have a long way more to go.
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