therapy ending

It was going to be reviewed at 6 months and so now he says its nearing an end and we are finishing soon.

feel a bit sad. i also feel like a failure, like im not good enoug hto have therapy, but hten i doubt i will tell him that because i will feel ashamed of being so weak as to think its a failure - which is probabkly why im not good enough at therapy.

id hoped we could continue. it takes so long for me to trust.
it feels quite pointless now.

very sad. maybe it is pointless, but that is even more upsetting becuse it means im also losing hte hope that i will ever change

toffeellen, I'm so sad to read of the unwanted end to your therapy. (((((hugs)))))

It sounds like your therapist is not the one deciding to end, but maybe your insurance? I really think when to end should be decided on by the client and therapist. It is just plain wrong that someone else tells you and your T what to do. Could you continue if you paid out of pocket?

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id hoped we could continue. it takes so long for me to trust.
it feels quite pointless now.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I wish you could discuss some of these things with your T, but I understand when you say it is pointless. I would feel the same way.

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im not good enough at therapy

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">You are good enough for therapy. It is the insurance system that is failing you.

I would clarify the "end" of what; could just be the end of the six months meaning that the review is coming up, etc.

Do say "something" to him about how much you are getting from seeing him! Therapists don't really have any other measure besides what we say/do. If you want therapy you have to at least say that, as risky as it is, or the other people don't know. It may not continue but it would truly be sad if it ended only because you didn't "understand" what he was talking about and didn't take part in the review, etc. It is impossible to be "bad" at therapy since it is your therapy.

Im just no good at rejection.
If I talk about it with him and i cant continue it will feel like such a rejection and it will be even worse because he knows i feel rejected which i would feel humiliated about and even worse.

But talking about it, you have a 50:50 chance that you will continue and not be "rejected" whereas if you don't talk about it, (you don't have to say you feel rejected, you just have to make sure you understand what is happening correctly!) you could be wrong in which case you'll be unpleasantly surprised/won't be as "ready" for whatever happens. If you don't talk about it and you can continue, how will you know? You won't so you'll be just as out/rejected only you won't know good things could have happened. The "larger picture," which discussion always gives, also allows for "more" ideas/ways of things being resolved.

There's nothing wrong with wishing things could continue. That's not humiliating to express and feel! But if you have trouble thinking about how you'll feel; bypass the "feeling" and just stay with "facts". State things as if you're making an appointment with another kind of professional and just make sure they have a problem with serving you, making an appointment or that your insurance has a problem, etc. Keep it formal and non-personal when you talk about it and work with it. Then he won't have to know you feel rejected, humiated, etc.